Girlfriends Dad..

neoflex · 06-21-2010, 08:52 PM

Not sure how involved you are but from your last post it doesn't sound like you have gotten too far and may not be that far involved yet. May be time to cut her loose. Only reason why I say this is because if the father or mother for that matter don't like you, it will be a struggle to make the relationship work. Most parents of girls I dated in the past loved me. Except this one girls mother who hated me basically because the mother was an out of her mind control freak who literally had no friends and her daughter basically was the only person she would get to hang out with. Needless to say once her daughter started spending most of her time with me rather than her I became public enemy number 1. The father and I got along great and even he told me his wife was a wicked b*tch. Well, the fact that the mother hated me made the relationship impossible and we ended up parting ways which in the end was a good thing since I eventually found out the hard way that the fruit didn't fall far from the tree and the daughter ended up turning into a total psycho stalker. So depending on how involved you are with this girl and if you can't rectify the problem with her dad it may be easier to cut her loose sooner rather than later. Also remember, when you marry a girl you marry her family too so if things suck now it will only get worse with marriage.

14holestogie · 06-22-2010, 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by neoflex

Not sure how involved you are but from your last post it doesn't sound like you have gotten too far and may not be that far involved yet. May be time to cut her loose. Only reason why I say this is because if the father or mother for that matter don't like you, it will be a struggle to make the relationship work.

No disrespect to you, John, but this isn't always the case.

I know a guy that looks and acts a lot like me who had the same issues with the future in-laws many years ago. Seems the FIL (Chief of Police) had an issue with this "guy" who may or may not have had some delinquent issues in the not so distant past. Once I was able to prove I was past those days (and I wasn't sure I was at that time), the mending of the fences began. It was not an easy thing to do, but was well worth the effort when years later he'd proudly introduce his son-in-law to others. Nearly 40 years later and a few years removed from the FIL's passing, the relationship continues to thrive.

06-21-2010, 08:52 PM	#1
neoflex I'm nuts for the place Join Date: Nov 2008 First Name: John Location: Monroe, NC Posts: 2,765 Trading: (32)	Re: Girlfriends Dad.. Not sure how involved you are but from your last post it doesn't sound like you have gotten too far and may not be that far involved yet. May be time to cut her loose. Only reason why I say this is because if the father or mother for that matter don't like you, it will be a struggle to make the relationship work. Most parents of girls I dated in the past loved me. Except this one girls mother who hated me basically because the mother was an out of her mind control freak who literally had no friends and her daughter basically was the only person she would get to hang out with. Needless to say once her daughter started spending most of her time with me rather than her I became public enemy number 1. The father and I got along great and even he told me his wife was a wicked b*tch. Well, the fact that the mother hated me made the relationship impossible and we ended up parting ways which in the end was a good thing since I eventually found out the hard way that the fruit didn't fall far from the tree and the daughter ended up turning into a total psycho stalker. So depending on how involved you are with this girl and if you can't rectify the problem with her dad it may be easier to cut her loose sooner rather than later. Also remember, when you marry a girl you marry her family too so if things suck now it will only get worse with marriage. __________________