Divorce thread, support, fun, and pain

[weak_link]

Originally Posted by Starz26

Oh where do I start....

Thanks for this thread, currently feeling alone even though I am married. There is nothing worse than feeling alone with someone in the same house with ya...

If it was not for my kids I would be long gone....But have been through that before and it really hurt my relationship with my kids from the previous marriage. I do not want to go through that again.....

look for the small victories like you said......It would be great to come home and not get *****ed. Really hate it when i leave one thing out and it is thrown in my office cause it was "out of place" never mind all the clutter she leaves around.

My favorite is when I am gone for a few days and come home I have to go to her and say hello, as she turns her face to make me kiss her on the cheek, and when she is gone for a few days, I have to greet her and say hello, and kiss the cheek....

But I digress......bottom line bad marriage = miserable life......for me though, leaving my kids is worse.....at some point that will not be the case...

Hang in there man, I know how you feel. I lived in the same house with my ex for two years. I didn't want to give up but she had enough and did us both the favor and filed for divorce. Some days are better than others but overall, I'm a happier person since I moved out. I know you are in a tough spot and thinking of your kids first is hard not to do. Feel free to pm me anytime if you just want to blow off some steam. Heck, post in this thread~ we've got lots of great BOTL's with amazing life experiences. You never know, someone might have a suggestion that works for you and helps you turn that corner.

[Starz26]

Originally Posted by weak_link

Hang in there man, I know how you feel. I lived in the same house with my ex for two years. I didn't want to give up but she had enough and did us both the favor and filed for divorce. Some days are better than others but overall, I'm a happier person since I moved out. I know you are in a tough spot and thinking of your kids first is hard not to do. Feel free to pm me anytime if you just want to blow off some steam. Heck, post in this thread~ we've got lots of great BOTL's with amazing life experiences. You never know, someone might have a suggestion that works for you and helps you turn that corner.

Thanks for the offer, I may take you up on it....

With my previous marriage, I see my kids once a week, she got remarried, and they have a better relationship with the stepdad....I am the one they go to see and have fun.....I miss out on most of their activities and do not really know them as people....

With my 2y/o in this marriage, I work from home so I got to be the "mom" and see every event, personality change, milestone, etc....I did not miss anything and I am very, very close to my 2/yo daughter.....One extreme to the other...I just cannot bring myself to leave knowing what it will be like for my relationship with y 2 y/o....i love it when she wakes up in the morning , looks at me with those beautiful eyes, and says "mornin daaaddddyyy' and snuggles up to me....yes, she still ends up coming in my bed (wife and I sleep separately) about halfway through the night....

I am very envious of all you gents that have a spouse who smokes with you, gets you a thoughtful gift, cigar etc.....Mine would not do anything of the sort, "Cigars are stupid" thus she would never think about buying me one....never mind that i like them....she just does not think that way....if it does nothing for her it does not even cross her mind....

Sorry, look what you started!!! Ughh.....

time to get my daughter out of the highchair....peace, going to take care of her for a while, she is the reason I have any happiness in my life!

weak_link, keep your spirits up, being single can be the best thing in the world...Once you get to the point of not needing anyone or missing what you had, you can really begin to enjoy life.....I am not an eloquent speaker, but if you walk in a room and act like you are THE person to be around everyone will want to be around you.....grab life by the horns, realize that you are a great person and have fun.....Hope that made sense....

Oh, funniest thing from the counselor route...one day I got upsent and kinda took over the conversation blowing off steam....we walked out and she said "I am never going back there again YOU EMBARRASSED ME"...I mean, of all places to vent, that should have been it...but she is so self absorbed...

Oh and yes, I did get her flowers for V-Day cause there would be hell to pay if I did not, she walked in and said "Who are these from" OMG!!!