One Month Ago Today, My Dad Died

Volusianator · 07-01-2011, 06:33 AM

Not a sympathy post, but on the one month anniversary of his death, it just hit me so hard the things I won't be able to do with him.

We never did get to go camping in the camper I spent the last two summers restoring

Not golfing with Dad anymore is just something I can't wrap my mind around yet.

Fishing and hunting, I have absolutely no desire to do these things anymore, days at the cabin, just the two of us or my next door neighbor and his Dad, just the best memories of my life.

What I wouldn't give to just one more time, hear my Dad say , "I'll decide"!

Drez · 07-01-2011, 06:43 AM

Wade I can't even begin to imagine how hard it must be. All I can offer you is the support of a brother that will do anything he can to help you and yours out during this hard time. Just remember to look back at the good memories and times you guys shared. Know that our prayers and wishes are with you! God bless wade.

Blak Smyth · 07-01-2011, 07:55 AM

Man that is a hard thing to deal with. I lost my father when I was very young and coundn't imagine going through it now. My thoughts are with you brother. PM me if you need an ear or if theres anything I can do to help.

Ogre · 07-01-2011, 08:20 AM

It is hard brother, but your dad would want you to continue to do the things you enjoyed together. Don't avoid them because of the memories, do them because of the memories.

07-01-2011, 08:21 AM

Lost my pops almost 7 years ago..its never easy brother. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hang in there.

Remo · 07-01-2011, 09:04 AM

Hang in there bro, keep the memories alive and do the things you did with him, it will make him happy knowing you are continuing doing the things you enjoyed together, lost my mom at 14, time heals all things.

Blak Smyth · 07-01-2011, 09:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Ogre3239

It is hard brother, but your dad would want you to continue to do the things you enjoyed together. Don't avoid them because of the memories, do them because of the memories.

I feel exactly like this, just couldn't find the words!

area51 · 07-01-2011, 09:47 AM

Damn man, I can't even imagine this I'm sorry for your loss.

Volusianator · 07-01-2011, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Ogre3239

It is hard brother, but your dad would want you to continue to do the things you enjoyed together. Don't avoid them because of the memories, do them because of the memories.

You are absolutely right, it's just there's times where you don't know how you can make it through the day. Today is one of them. However, your words are spot on correct. Thank you!

N2 GOLD · 07-01-2011, 01:07 PM

Hold tight to memories for comfort & may your memories give you strength.

Volusianator · 07-01-2011, 01:27 PM

All the memories I need right here, I think I've watched this 100x in the last four weeks.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YdiqdR8gwsY

RGD. · 07-01-2011, 03:14 PM

I understand.

I lost my Dad in February. I keep thinking how he walked into the hospital at the beginning of December for a check up and never came home.

A handful of roses from his casket are in the dash of my truck - I can't bring myself to remove them.

Ron

Dunkel · 07-03-2011, 08:03 AM

My Dad passed away 8 years ago this June. It still tough when I fish, camp, or enjoy a good meal. I know how you feel man. Like Larry said your Dad would want you to go on enjoying the things you both enjoyed doing. You can always look up and give him a "this one's for you Dad" when you catch a nice fish, enjoy a beverage while camping or hit a nice drive while golfing.

longknocker · 07-03-2011, 08:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Volusianator

All the memories I need right here, I think I've watched this 100x in the last four weeks.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YdiqdR8gwsY

Awesome, Wade! Thanks For Sharing! I Lost My Dad 3 Years Ago & It Still Hurts. Just Remember All The Good Times You Had With Him, Brother! Thoughts & Prayers Sent For The Lord To Give You His Peace.

cmitch · 07-03-2011, 08:36 AM

You do not mention how he died and it may be irrelevant. But I know the pain you must be experiencing. Sometimes things that happen just aren't fair.

My own childhood memories of my dad were less than pleasant. He was all too consumed with his work (police officer) and wanted to be left alone when he got home. He only took me fishing twice during my entire childhood and I think he later regretted it. We had a falling out in the summer of '92 that resulted in us not speaking for nearly 2 years. The reuniting took place on an afternoon in February, 1994 when I was involved in a car accident. At that time, I owned a very unusual car (Mitsubishi Galant-wasn't that many around then) and when he heard the description of the vehicle on the police radio, he knew it had to be me. From the time he arrived to see that I was okay until the time of his death in Aug. 1998, we never had another cross word between us. We made up for a lot of missed fishing trips in that next 4 1/2 years. It's been 13 years since his death and I'll always miss him.

Do like I do and smile every time you think of the good things you did get to do. Those memories of your dad will always be a comfort to you as they are for me. Thank God we were able to reconcile our differences because my brother and my dad did not and he carries that burden to this day.

Take care, brother and I hope things get better for you.

SvilleKid · 07-03-2011, 08:40 AM

Wade..... I'm coming up on the 1 year anni of my dad's death. It doesn't hurt any less when I think about it, but with time you remember the good times more, and the pain less. Time does help, brother. Hang in there.

Volusianator · 07-03-2011, 01:54 PM

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Originally Posted by cmitch

You do not mention how he died

It was his third round with cancer and he was just tired of fighting. He made the decision to let it take him and we respected that. Not that it makes it any easier, but it was he decision, he fought hard for a long time with that disease.

07-01-2011, 06:33 AM	#1
Volusianator Bikes, Babes & Cigars! Join Date: Feb 2009 First Name: Wade Location: Green Bay, WI Posts: 1,438 Trading: (17)	One Month Ago Today, My Dad Died Not a sympathy post, but on the one month anniversary of his death, it just hit me so hard the things I won't be able to do with him. We never did get to go camping in the camper I spent the last two summers restoring Not golfing with Dad anymore is just something I can't wrap my mind around yet. Fishing and hunting, I have absolutely no desire to do these things anymore, days at the cabin, just the two of us or my next door neighbor and his Dad, just the best memories of my life. What I wouldn't give to just one more time, hear my Dad say , "I'll decide"! __________________ Overtime pays more because of what you're missing, money isn't everything.

07-01-2011, 06:43 AM	#2
Drez The Warden Join Date: Jan 2010 First Name: Frank Location: Miami, FL Posts: 3,768 Trading: (35)	Re: One Month Ago Today, My Dad Died Wade I can't even begin to imagine how hard it must be. All I can offer you is the support of a brother that will do anything he can to help you and yours out during this hard time. Just remember to look back at the good memories and times you guys shared. Know that our prayers and wishes are with you! God bless wade. __________________ They aren't going to multiply....burn that b!tch!

07-01-2011, 07:55 AM	#3
Blak Smyth Think Blue! Join Date: Jun 2011 First Name: SD Location: THE WOOD Posts: 8,486 Trading: (52)	Re: One Month Ago Today, My Dad Died Man that is a hard thing to deal with. I lost my father when I was very young and coundn't imagine going through it now. My thoughts are with you brother. PM me if you need an ear or if theres anything I can do to help. __________________ SUPPORT OUR TROOPS

07-01-2011, 08:20 AM	#4
Ogre **CENSORED** Join Date: Apr 2010 First Name: Larry Location: Central Florida Posts: 12,068 Trading: (46)	Re: One Month Ago Today, My Dad Died It is hard brother, but your dad would want you to continue to do the things you enjoyed together. Don't avoid them because of the memories, do them because of the memories. __________________

07-01-2011, 08:21 AM	#5
roro16 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: One Month Ago Today, My Dad Died Lost my pops almost 7 years ago..its never easy brother. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hang in there.

07-01-2011, 09:04 AM	#6
Remo C.I.A Join Date: Feb 2011 First Name: Mike Location: Palm Harbor, Florida Posts: 12,597 Trading: (122)	Re: One Month Ago Today, My Dad Died Hang in there bro, keep the memories alive and do the things you did with him, it will make him happy knowing you are continuing doing the things you enjoyed together, lost my mom at 14, time heals all things. __________________

07-01-2011, 09:47 AM	#8
area51 Blowing Smoke Rings Join Date: Sep 2010 First Name: Ken Location: Tejas Posts: 1,259 Trading: (3)	Re: One Month Ago Today, My Dad Died Damn man, I can't even imagine this I'm sorry for your loss. __________________

07-01-2011, 01:07 PM	#10
N2 GOLD MIND OVER MATTER... Join Date: Feb 2011 First Name: RICO Location: So. CAL 33° 44' 44" N / 117° 52' 0" W Posts: 2,330 Trading: (1)	Re: One Month Ago Today, My Dad Died Hold tight to memories for comfort & may your memories give you strength. __________________ When I want your opinion, I'll give it to ya.

07-01-2011, 01:27 PM	#11
Volusianator Bikes, Babes & Cigars! Join Date: Feb 2009 First Name: Wade Location: Green Bay, WI Posts: 1,438 Trading: (17)	Re: One Month Ago Today, My Dad Died All the memories I need right here, I think I've watched this 100x in the last four weeks. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YdiqdR8gwsY __________________ Overtime pays more because of what you're missing, money isn't everything.

07-01-2011, 03:14 PM	#12
RGD. God Like Status Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Ron Location: Alexandria, Virginia Posts: 971 Trading: (1)	Re: One Month Ago Today, My Dad Died I understand. I lost my Dad in February. I keep thinking how he walked into the hospital at the beginning of December for a check up and never came home. A handful of roses from his casket are in the dash of my truck - I can't bring myself to remove them. Ron

07-03-2011, 08:03 AM	#13
Dunkel Maduro & Oscuro Whore-O Join Date: Jun 2009 First Name: Doug Location: West by God Virginia Posts: 2,232 Trading: (75)	Re: One Month Ago Today, My Dad Died My Dad passed away 8 years ago this June. It still tough when I fish, camp, or enjoy a good meal. I know how you feel man. Like Larry said your Dad would want you to go on enjoying the things you both enjoyed doing. You can always look up and give him a "this one's for you Dad" when you catch a nice fish, enjoy a beverage while camping or hit a nice drive while golfing. __________________ Blue Label,Any Filipe Gregorio,Acid,Don Elias,El Mejor Espresso,Tierra del Sol

07-03-2011, 08:36 AM	#15
cmitch Heads up get down Join Date: Oct 2010 First Name: Clayton Location: NW Alabama by the river Posts: 2,720 Trading: (25)	Re: One Month Ago Today, My Dad Died You do not mention how he died and it may be irrelevant. But I know the pain you must be experiencing. Sometimes things that happen just aren't fair. My own childhood memories of my dad were less than pleasant. He was all too consumed with his work (police officer) and wanted to be left alone when he got home. He only took me fishing twice during my entire childhood and I think he later regretted it. We had a falling out in the summer of '92 that resulted in us not speaking for nearly 2 years. The reuniting took place on an afternoon in February, 1994 when I was involved in a car accident. At that time, I owned a very unusual car (Mitsubishi Galant-wasn't that many around then) and when he heard the description of the vehicle on the police radio, he knew it had to be me. From the time he arrived to see that I was okay until the time of his death in Aug. 1998, we never had another cross word between us. We made up for a lot of missed fishing trips in that next 4 1/2 years. It's been 13 years since his death and I'll always miss him. Do like I do and smile every time you think of the good things you did get to do. Those memories of your dad will always be a comfort to you as they are for me. Thank God we were able to reconcile our differences because my brother and my dad did not and he carries that burden to this day. Take care, brother and I hope things get better for you. __________________ No matter what one's status is in society, cigars are the great equalizer where the affluent and common share a love for the leaf. - Me.

07-03-2011, 08:40 AM	#16
SvilleKid Yes I am a Pirate Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: 33°46′08″N 86°28′16″W / 33.76895°N 86.471037°W Posts: 2,776 Trading: (52)	Re: One Month Ago Today, My Dad Died Wade..... I'm coming up on the 1 year anni of my dad's death. It doesn't hurt any less when I think about it, but with time you remember the good times more, and the pain less. Time does help, brother. Hang in there. __________________ Ceilin' fan it stirs the air, Cigar smoke does swirl. The fragrance on the pillow case, and he thinks about the girl. Thanks, JB, 1975.