Kids and cleaning advice

Zeuceone · 03-24-2011, 08:27 PM

A nice butt whooping always works.

forgop · 03-24-2011, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Zeuceone

A nice butt whooping always works.

I'm trying to make that be an exception rather than the rule though. I'm not one of those who doesn't believe in spanking, but I think it should be for more serious "offenses" than this.

357 · 03-24-2011, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Zeuceone

A nice butt whooping always works.

For my kids, spanking is usually reserved for disobedience and/or defiance. So if I say pick that up, and they make excuses, argue, doddle, or blow it off, they know what the risks are. They will get one warning, at most, and there's no garauntee of that.

Consistancy is key. No empty/repetitive threats.

Sorry to flood the thread.

cigarusmaximus · 03-24-2011, 08:46 PM

I agree with most everything that has been suggested here. I'll only add that it will be critical that you and your signifcant other are in complete agreement. My biggest frustration is not finding the motivation for the kids it's convincing my wife that she needs to be on-side. Since she is a push-over the kids take advantage of the inconsistencies and we rarely get ahead....it's very frustrating.

03-24-2011, 09:08 PM

Well, I have a fifteen year old daughter and I have been doing all that stuff for eight years and I have come to the conclusion they are brain dead and don't care what you really want or try to teach them. Maybe it's the friends they keep or there will for independence. She had everything a kid could want and need, Xbox, computer, DVD, stereo, TV. Cell Phone, IPOD and eventually lost it all and did not give a crap, rather go hang with her friends. So in other-words what i'm getting to is do what you think is right but be prepared it may not work. Good luck.

taltos · 03-25-2011, 05:28 AM

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Originally Posted by piperman

Well, I have a fifteen year old daughter and I have been doing all that stuff for eight years and I have come to the conclusion they are brain dead and don't care what you really want or try to teach them. Maybe it's the friends they keep or there will for independence. She had everything a kid could want and need, Xbox, computer, DVD, stereo, TV. Cell Phone, IPOD and eventually lost it all and did not give a crap, rather go hang with her friends. So in other-words what i'm getting to is do what you think is right but be prepared it may not work. Good luck.

You are coming up on a time where you control the biggest thing in most kids' life, her driver's license and access to the car keys. Potent weapon but a little scary. I have seen a lot of kids get back in line when the threat to withhold driving until age 18 raises its ugly head.

BloodSpite · 03-25-2011, 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Zeuceone

A nice butt whooping always works.

Mine gets no allowance. If I ask her to do something that I deem above and beyond the SOP such as "clean your room" (something like weeding my flower garden) I'll pay her for it.

Her Chores are done when we do ours as a family. Saturday mornings are for cleaning. Everybody gets assignments at our morning "briefing" over breakfast. Goal is to have all operations complete in the AO by 1200 hours. Rest of the day is for erroneous details, operations and errands that need to be completed such as grocery shopping etc.

For me, it's all about setting an expectation, and keeping it consistently the same thing every week. She knows she can trash her room..but she also knows that means she has less free time for cleaning it on Saturday if she totally destroys it. Which means no games, no out to eat etc etc.

But then I'm a bit of a buzzkill according to some when it comes to children

RevSmoke · 03-25-2011, 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by BloodSpite

Mine gets no allowance. If I ask her to do something that I deem above and beyond the SOP such as "clean your room" (something like weeding my flower garden) I'll pay her for it.

Her Chores are done when we do ours as a family. Saturday mornings are for cleaning. Everybody gets assignments at our morning "briefing" over breakfast. Goal is to have all operations complete in the AO by 1200 hours. Rest of the day is for erroneous details, operations and errands that need to be completed such as grocery shopping etc.

For me, it's all about setting an expectation, and keeping it consistently the same thing every week. She knows she can trash her room..but she also knows that means she has less free time for cleaning it on Saturday if she totally destroys it. Which means no games, no out to eat etc etc.

But then I'm a bit of a buzzkill according to some when it comes to children

Sounds like consistency and order here. This is model. Expectations are clear, consequences are clear, family time is set.

I also agree with the approach to paying for extra tasks. They learn responsibility and what it means to work and how much money is worth.

Peace of the Lord be with you.

HK3- · 03-25-2011, 09:21 AM

Growing up, my parents had a list of chores for my sisters and I to do each week. By having the chores change every week it kept things interesting.

Same list, same jobs, just the jobs rotate to a different person each week.

Mr B · 03-25-2011, 04:23 PM

AMEN REV!!! Very well said!!

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Originally Posted by BloodSpite

Mine gets no allowance. If I ask her to do something that I deem above and beyond the SOP such as "clean your room" (something like weeding my flower garden) I'll pay her for it.

Her Chores are done when we do ours as a family. Saturday mornings are for cleaning. Everybody gets assignments at our morning "briefing" over breakfast. Goal is to have all operations complete in the AO by 1200 hours. Rest of the day is for erroneous details, operations and errands that need to be completed such as grocery shopping etc.

For me, it's all about setting an expectation, and keeping it consistently the same thing every week. She knows she can trash her room..but she also knows that means she has less free time for cleaning it on Saturday if she totally destroys it. Which means no games, no out to eat etc etc.

But then I'm a bit of a buzzkill according to some when it comes to children

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This is also similar to how it works at my house.
Jobs for $$ are only offered after their regular Chores are done. The list is on the back of their doors.
If its not done, no deserts, no Ipods, no Nintendo DS..... Priveledges are earned and not to be expected. Kids these days do almost NOTHING in the way of chores and they expect to be handed everything. Not In My House, no way.
Disrespectful kids make me want to puke. I did my share of getting into trouble when I was a kid, but I cleaned my room, finished all my chores and was able to earn $$ afterwards. and I was always respectful to my parents adult friends.
Consistancy is the key!!!

03-24-2011, 08:27 PM	#1
Zeuceone You're next Join Date: Dec 2010 First Name: G Location: SoCal Posts: 1,737 Trading: (16)	Re: Kids and cleaning advice A nice butt whooping always works.

03-24-2011, 08:46 PM	#4
cigarusmaximus Still Watching My Back Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 100 Trading: (2)	Re: Kids and cleaning advice I agree with most everything that has been suggested here. I'll only add that it will be critical that you and your signifcant other are in complete agreement. My biggest frustration is not finding the motivation for the kids it's convincing my wife that she needs to be on-side. Since she is a push-over the kids take advantage of the inconsistencies and we rarely get ahead....it's very frustrating. __________________ Canadian...eh!

03-24-2011, 09:08 PM	#5
piperman Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Kids and cleaning advice Well, I have a fifteen year old daughter and I have been doing all that stuff for eight years and I have come to the conclusion they are brain dead and don't care what you really want or try to teach them. Maybe it's the friends they keep or there will for independence. She had everything a kid could want and need, Xbox, computer, DVD, stereo, TV. Cell Phone, IPOD and eventually lost it all and did not give a crap, rather go hang with her friends. So in other-words what i'm getting to is do what you think is right but be prepared it may not work. Good luck.

03-25-2011, 09:21 AM	#9
HK3- Cashmere Jungle Lord Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Boffa Location: The town so nice they named it twice Posts: 5,035 Trading: (48)	Re: Kids and cleaning advice Growing up, my parents had a list of chores for my sisters and I to do each week. By having the chores change every week it kept things interesting. Same list, same jobs, just the jobs rotate to a different person each week.