Girlfriends Dad..

[sikk50]

Originally Posted by icehog3

Funny I have almost the same picture as the background on my phone.

And sounds like we can check one possibility off the list.

[neoflex]

Not sure how involved you are but from your last post it doesn't sound like you have gotten too far and may not be that far involved yet. May be time to cut her loose. Only reason why I say this is because if the father or mother for that matter don't like you, it will be a struggle to make the relationship work. Most parents of girls I dated in the past loved me. Except this one girls mother who hated me basically because the mother was an out of her mind control freak who literally had no friends and her daughter basically was the only person she would get to hang out with. Needless to say once her daughter started spending most of her time with me rather than her I became public enemy number 1. The father and I got along great and even he told me his wife was a wicked b*tch. Well, the fact that the mother hated me made the relationship impossible and we ended up parting ways which in the end was a good thing since I eventually found out the hard way that the fruit didn't fall far from the tree and the daughter ended up turning into a total psycho stalker. So depending on how involved you are with this girl and if you can't rectify the problem with her dad it may be easier to cut her loose sooner rather than later. Also remember, when you marry a girl you marry her family too so if things suck now it will only get worse with marriage.

[14holestogie]

Originally Posted by neoflex

Not sure how involved you are but from your last post it doesn't sound like you have gotten too far and may not be that far involved yet. May be time to cut her loose. Only reason why I say this is because if the father or mother for that matter don't like you, it will be a struggle to make the relationship work.

No disrespect to you, John, but this isn't always the case.

I know a guy that looks and acts a lot like me who had the same issues with the future in-laws many years ago. Seems the FIL (Chief of Police) had an issue with this "guy" who may or may not have had some delinquent issues in the not so distant past. Once I was able to prove I was past those days (and I wasn't sure I was at that time), the mending of the fences began. It was not an easy thing to do, but was well worth the effort when years later he'd proudly introduce his son-in-law to others. Nearly 40 years later and a few years removed from the FIL's passing, the relationship continues to thrive.

[colinb913]

No man, I mean me and her have been friends for a while, but just started dating. Shes kinda wanting to take it slow so thats why we havent uhm.. banged. Haha.
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[neoflex]

Could always try offering him a peace pipe err I mean cigar.

[Wolfgang]

Im more or less in the same situation with my Girlfriends mom. From what I understand she is just not ready to let "her little girl go yet" and is finding every excuse to give me the cold shoulder. You can dig at it all you want but to be brutally honest it only matters what your girlfriend thinks.

[floydpink]

Just watched "she's Out Of My League" last night and so should you Colin.

Perfect way to deal with your problem is played out....

[shilala]

Maybe he thought you dishonored him because you started dating his daughter without asking first?
I don't know him, but he may be old school. He may have thought you knew him well enough (knowing his daughter for some time and being friends) that you'd know enough to ask to take her out.
Or maybe you were pawing at his daughter in front of him? Something like that?

The only thing that I can add is that young men today a lot of times don't understand what a daughter means to a father. I know I didn't when I was a kid, but I should have been taught, most were. Something that a young man wouldn't at all consider disrespectful could easily be felt that way by the father.
I make sure I have a "talk" with young men before they see my daughter, that way we don't get where you guys got. The "talk" is about mutual respect, and it's always well received, not that it matters. Pukes are a dime a dozen, my daughter is one in a million. I like scaring them, too. It's fun.

I'm not at all suggesting any of this towards you, Colin. Just some recent stuff I've noticed that might be helpful. I don't mean any disrespect at all.

[kaisersozei]

As a semi-old man myself, with a soon-to-be 16 year old daughter (and 21 & soon-to-be 17 year old sons) I would agree with this:

Originally Posted by shilala

The only thing that I can add is that young men today a lot of times don't understand what a daughter means to a father. I know I didn't when I was a kid, but I should have been taught, most were. Something that a young man wouldn't at all consider disrespectful could easily be felt that way by the father.
I make sure I have a "talk" with young men before they see my daughter, that way we don't get where you guys got. The "talk" is about mutual respect, and it's always well received, not that it matters. Pukes are a dime a dozen, my daughter is one in a million. I like scaring them, too. It's fun.

and this:

Originally Posted by OLS

OR find a way to be helpful to her old man, roofing, tough yard work, etc. Give yourself
an opportunity to spend enough time with him that he breaches the subject on his own during
some tough physical labor. Old school men like to talk while they work so they never have to
actually look at you while they bit$h..

And yes, big biceps helps when you're a girlfriend's dad.

[lbowles2]

Originally Posted by kaisersozei

And yes, big biceps helps when you're a girlfriend's dad.

My daughter is 3... I've started lifting weights to be prepared

[floydpink]

Originally Posted by lbowles2

My daughter is 3... I've started lifting weights to be prepared

Mine is 5 and I have a shotgun and a shovel waiting..

Originally Posted by floydpink

Mine is 5 and I have a shotgun and a shovel waiting..

Mine is 11 months old and I've got plans for a large gun case and a "don't answer the door without gun in hand" policy that I'll use starting in about 12 years.

[colinb913]

Haha, I saw him when he performed and he used that joke!!
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[Lear31MX]

Yeah I just broke up with my girlfreind, it wasn't because of her father though, it was becasue she was a miget and i'm of normal hight, it's really to bad because I was
NUTS OVER HER

[colinb913]

Hahahahahaha!!
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[MiamiE]

I never had to deal with a FIL, but a nosey MIL, yes. I have a lot of fun with her. I would go about your business and make sure you aren't doing anything you know they would consider disrespectful in front of them. There's a time and place for everything.

[kenstogie]

As a singe Dad, you are the enemy (not really but you get the idea) I remember when I was 16 so I know. I will have a few Long range targets back from the M-16 Range on the wall when any boy comes to take my daughter out.

"Yup, see this one here? Right in the head at 300 yards, peice of cake, betcha I could do 500 yards. What's that 5 football fields? That's a loooong way aways. I don't think you would hear it just a sharp, sharp pain and THEN you'd hear the bang. I could just slip away too, pretty easy actually"

[GKitty]

I'd just like to chime in and say, y'all are a great bunch of dads.

When boys started calling the house for me, my dad made it a point to start answering the phone every time it rang. His favorite test was to ask them, "What does she look like?" If they couldn't get past brunette and glasses, they got to leave a message. The guy who mentioned the dimples got major brownie points.

My only comment to the original subject, is to watch how you talk about this situation with the lady in question. She may get on a rant about how her dad is being immature or juvenile when she gets frustrated with the situation. This is not a invitation for you to join in. Save that for your friends... or your internet forums. Dads are people too, so they're not always going to be perfect. However, that conversation could easily turn into her taking his side over yours because she feels like you've attacked him. Tread carefully.

Carry on, gents!

[Brutus2600]

Originally Posted by GKitty

My only comment to the original subject, is to watch how you talk about this situation with the lady in question. She may get on a rant about how her dad is being immature or juvenile when she gets frustrated with the situation. This is not a invitation for you to join in. Save that for your friends... or your internet forums. Dads are people too, so they're not always going to be perfect. However, that conversation could easily turn into her taking his side over yours because she feels like you've attacked him. Tread carefully.

Man, now that GKitty says that I've got to totally agree with her. Didn't even think about this. I had a gf awhile back that would always get pissed about stupid stuff her mom did, and I joined in with the disbelief about how moronic those things were. Well, later I learned that despite her ranting about her mother, this was NOT an invitation for me to join in.

If she's ranting about her father, listen, console, but do not join in the complaining. It'll be way better for you in the long run!

[colinb913]

I personally have no problems with her parents, so I dont plan on smack talking anyone. And I def. wont be ranting with her anytime soon.
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