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MurphysLaw · 02-16-2012, 07:57 AM

I went away to college when I got my first degree, and it was a great experience (I'm sure my wife wouldve frowned upon me going away while getting my current degree

). I highly recommend stepping out of your comfort zone and just going for it. If you have the chance to visit the schools first, do it, you'll get a feel of the school and if it's the place for you.

kaisersozei · 02-16-2012, 08:06 AM

If you're looking for advice on particular colleges/programs in the SE, post up your selections and we can weigh in with opinions. My oldest graduated from Radford in May, and I have two high-school seniors that will be attending college in either VA or NC next year.

chachee52 · 02-16-2012, 08:12 AM

I have had similar problems in the past. some of which I don't regret what i did, and another I regret a lot of not jumping on it.
when I first started college I thought I wanted Physical Therapy. I started at a very good school, well known (I'll leave the name out), and has a great rep in the field. When I got there, it wasn't the school for me. I was having trouble and went to my advisors and they told me "just go into the tests (mid terms/finals) and know that you will probably fail and we'll figure something out after" (I'm not joking, that's actually what they said). At that time I was really sure i didn't want to be at this school, but had done some work in the field and PT was what I wanted. So I transfered and found a school that I really liked.
So for that part of picking schools, make sure you feel comfortable at the school you pick. I think that I picked the first school because of it's reputation and not what I wanted out of the school. So if you can find an Alumni group if you can't see the school in person. Talk to people about the school and find out what they really think about the school.
The second story that I regret is after school I wanted to head to Alaska to live for a year or two. There were tons of jobs (and they paid great). My nephew, who I was also very close to, was young I think maybe in Jr High and I consider myself as a father figure to him at the time. When I went to talk to him he asked me not to go. So I didn't because of him. Now I am married, have a house (which I don't regret either), but have never lived in Alaska. My nephew is off doing his own thing and I don't see him much. I very much so regret getting away from "home" and not seeing Alaska.
So follow your heart and do what YOU want/need to do. And good luck. It's a tough descion

shilala · 02-16-2012, 08:14 AM

I'm with everyone else in "spreading your wings", Ethan.
Don't be too quick to dismiss the "religious" schools. My stepson is currently going to a prep school that's very strong on faith, but it's all faiths. It's very open religion-wise and teaches the kids to respect each other's religions, and he's getting a great respect for the moralities that all faiths provide. He really hasn't picked up a faith or religion or anything for himself yet, but none of it bothers him at all. It's actually done just the opposite, it's made him want to learn about the religions to see what they're about.
It's definately had a positive impact on him. I don't know if he'll come out of it all with anything for himself aside from knowledge of the ideals of the different faiths, but as his step-parent, and someone who loves him very much, and someone who knows how these ideals will give him peace and confidence as he moves out to college and beyond, I couldn't be more pleased.
If the schools are going to hold you down and tattoo you and staple a hat on your head, I'd definately lean away. But don't discount them directly on religious affiliation, look at their numbers, placement, ratings, etc. Pick the best school.
You'll do great. Take this to Dad, too. I'm sure he's got great input for you.

Flounder · 02-16-2012, 12:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shilala

Take this to Dad, too. I'm sure he's got great input for you.

Oh, I know. Just harder there because I am closer with him than my Mom, so it'll make that conversation difficult.

02-16-2012, 12:35 PM

You have to do what's best for you and your career. Choose the best school you can get into. If that means going across country, then do so. Get the best GPA you can. Network, get to know your professors, intern, and do whatever you can to prepare yourself for when you do graduate. While I do agree with everyone saying that you should pursue your passion, you do however have to take into consideration the job market of whatever you choose to do. Face it, the economy is very sh!tty right, so make sure you think long and hard about your future

Hope this helps a bit.

Flounder · 02-16-2012, 11:41 PM

Well, this just in:

At a career fair on campus today I learned that my Multidisciplinary Degree is more versatile than a History BA would be.. So there's no sense in me leaving. Maybe I just go south for my Masters if I choose to get it...

forgop · 02-17-2012, 04:39 AM

Pursue whatever it is that you're passionate about. Don't do something to appease others or you'll be looking back at this 20-30 years from now with regret. You only get one shot at your time on this earth, so why spend it doing something you don't like?

02-16-2012, 07:57 AM	#21
MurphysLaw Anything can go wrong Join Date: Dec 2010 First Name: Brian Location: SoFlo Posts: 2,823 Trading: (19)	Re: I need to bum advice from y'all. I went away to college when I got my first degree, and it was a great experience (I'm sure my wife wouldve frowned upon me going away while getting my current degree ). I highly recommend stepping out of your comfort zone and just going for it. If you have the chance to visit the schools first, do it, you'll get a feel of the school and if it's the place for you. __________________ It's THIS easy to help our Troops.

02-16-2012, 08:06 AM	#22
kaisersozei The Homebrew Hammer Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Gerard Location: Midlothian, VA Posts: 3,183 Trading: (40)	Re: I need to bum advice from y'all. If you're looking for advice on particular colleges/programs in the SE, post up your selections and we can weigh in with opinions. My oldest graduated from Radford in May, and I have two high-school seniors that will be attending college in either VA or NC next year. __________________

02-16-2012, 08:12 AM	#23
chachee52 Adjusting to the Life Join Date: Dec 2009 First Name: Todd Location: Tyngsboro, MA Posts: 399 Trading: (2)	Re: I need to bum advice from y'all. I have had similar problems in the past. some of which I don't regret what i did, and another I regret a lot of not jumping on it. when I first started college I thought I wanted Physical Therapy. I started at a very good school, well known (I'll leave the name out), and has a great rep in the field. When I got there, it wasn't the school for me. I was having trouble and went to my advisors and they told me "just go into the tests (mid terms/finals) and know that you will probably fail and we'll figure something out after" (I'm not joking, that's actually what they said). At that time I was really sure i didn't want to be at this school, but had done some work in the field and PT was what I wanted. So I transfered and found a school that I really liked. So for that part of picking schools, make sure you feel comfortable at the school you pick. I think that I picked the first school because of it's reputation and not what I wanted out of the school. So if you can find an Alumni group if you can't see the school in person. Talk to people about the school and find out what they really think about the school. The second story that I regret is after school I wanted to head to Alaska to live for a year or two. There were tons of jobs (and they paid great). My nephew, who I was also very close to, was young I think maybe in Jr High and I consider myself as a father figure to him at the time. When I went to talk to him he asked me not to go. So I didn't because of him. Now I am married, have a house (which I don't regret either), but have never lived in Alaska. My nephew is off doing his own thing and I don't see him much. I very much so regret getting away from "home" and not seeing Alaska. So follow your heart and do what YOU want/need to do. And good luck. It's a tough descion __________________

02-16-2012, 08:14 AM	#24
shilala Dear Lord, Thank You. Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Scott Posts: 13,721 Trading: (252)	Re: I need to bum advice from y'all. I'm with everyone else in "spreading your wings", Ethan. Don't be too quick to dismiss the "religious" schools. My stepson is currently going to a prep school that's very strong on faith, but it's all faiths. It's very open religion-wise and teaches the kids to respect each other's religions, and he's getting a great respect for the moralities that all faiths provide. He really hasn't picked up a faith or religion or anything for himself yet, but none of it bothers him at all. It's actually done just the opposite, it's made him want to learn about the religions to see what they're about. It's definately had a positive impact on him. I don't know if he'll come out of it all with anything for himself aside from knowledge of the ideals of the different faiths, but as his step-parent, and someone who loves him very much, and someone who knows how these ideals will give him peace and confidence as he moves out to college and beyond, I couldn't be more pleased. If the schools are going to hold you down and tattoo you and staple a hat on your head, I'd definately lean away. But don't discount them directly on religious affiliation, look at their numbers, placement, ratings, etc. Pick the best school. You'll do great. Take this to Dad, too. I'm sure he's got great input for you. __________________

02-16-2012, 12:35 PM	#26
ChicagoWhiteSox Guest Posts: n/a	Re: I need to bum advice from y'all. You have to do what's best for you and your career. Choose the best school you can get into. If that means going across country, then do so. Get the best GPA you can. Network, get to know your professors, intern, and do whatever you can to prepare yourself for when you do graduate. While I do agree with everyone saying that you should pursue your passion, you do however have to take into consideration the job market of whatever you choose to do. Face it, the economy is very sh!tty right, so make sure you think long and hard about your future Hope this helps a bit.

02-16-2012, 11:41 PM	#27
Flounder Adjusting to the Life Join Date: Jun 2011 First Name: Ethan Location: Rochester, NY Posts: 422 Trading: (1)	Re: I need to bum advice from y'all. Well, this just in: At a career fair on campus today I learned that my Multidisciplinary Degree is more versatile than a History BA would be.. So there's no sense in me leaving. Maybe I just go south for my Masters if I choose to get it... __________________ "Any cigar smoker is friend, because I know how he feels." - Alfred de Musset

02-17-2012, 04:39 AM	#28
forgop Not a puffer Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Duane Location: Indianapolis, IN Posts: 2,869 Trading: (40)	Re: I need to bum advice from y'all. Pursue whatever it is that you're passionate about. Don't do something to appease others or you'll be looking back at this 20-30 years from now with regret. You only get one shot at your time on this earth, so why spend it doing something you don't like?