Custody Battle - Page 2

icehog3 · 03-09-2021, 06:00 PM

Garry, I'm sorry to hear you're struggling My Friend. The pain of being apart from the most important person in your life coupled with false accusations is a tough road to hoe.

I don't have a lot of job advice as I haven't been in the job market for decades. But I can offer an ear and any support I can help with. You've got us on your side, Garry, continue to be strong and lean on us as much as you need.

CigarSquid · 03-09-2021, 06:38 PM

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Originally Posted by icehog3

Garry, I'm sorry to hear you're struggling My Friend. The pain of being apart from the most important person in your life coupled with false accusations is a tough road to hoe.

I don't have a lot of job advice as I haven't been in the job market for decades. But I can offer an ear and any support I can help with. You've got us on your side, Garry, continue to be strong and lean on us as much as you need.

Thanks Tom for the support. Appreciate you guys here.

CigarNut · 03-09-2021, 07:04 PM

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

RevSmoke · 03-10-2021, 07:52 AM

A big part of working through things is having the place to "vent" comfortably. What I mean by that is a place you can get it off your chest and know that it is confidential. So your recent post in which you do that is indeed therapeutic. It is necessary though to have someone to work with these medical issues with you locally. It is good that you can bend here, but that local medical help for the depression and other things is necessary.

I see someone else is already linked you to Dave Ramsey stuff in regard to budgeting, it's a good place to begin.

I don't know what your faith life is like, but I have people come to me on a regular basis to help them put their life and faith together in a manner that helps to alleviate some things. I am not a therapist, I approach things from an entirely different perspective, but pastor and therapist working together, able to share information, can make a big difference.

What I can do from here, it's great for you. Especially that God gives you the strength to endure the difficult days.

Piece of the Lord be with you.

CigarSquid · 03-10-2021, 10:33 AM

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Originally Posted by RevSmoke

A big part of working through things is having the place to "vent" comfortably. What I mean by that is a place you can get it off your chest and know that it is confidential. So your recent post in which you do that is indeed therapeutic. It is necessary though to have someone to work with these medical issues with you locally. It is good that you can bend here, but that local medical help for the depression and other things is necessary.

I see someone else is already linked you to Dave Ramsey stuff in regard to budgeting, it's a good place to begin.

I don't know what your faith life is like, but I have people come to me on a regular basis to help them put their life and faith together in a manner that helps to alleviate some things. I am not a therapist, I approach things from an entirely different perspective, but pastor and therapist working together, able to share information, can make a big difference.

What I can do from here, it's great for you. Especially that God gives you the strength to endure the difficult days.

Piece of the Lord be with you.

I am in the works of trying to get my insurance figured out so I can find another therapist. That itself, the search for one stressed me out last time. It is hard to find someone to open up to, to get that relationship with... and not bounce around. I am feeling to to overwhelmed, like everything is hitting me at once.

My faith life, I am not religious by any means, more spiritual if anything. I try to have a higher power but I don't feel there is anything.

CigarSquid · 11-11-2021, 04:35 PM

Guys, I'm struggling hard. Had court yesterday. Still don't have time with my daughter but they forced me to cover her on my insurance. I have no problem providing for her, but with the $730 in child support and close to $600 for insurance, I will have hardly any paycheck left.

I have been out of it all day just wondering how I'm going to survive in the months to come.

I have started going back to therapy.

Thanks for being a place to vent.

RevSmoke · 11-11-2021, 08:32 PM

You are in my prayers!

mosesbotbol · 11-12-2021, 06:29 AM

Your daughter will appreciate your devotion and struggles your ex has put you through when she is old enough to understand such things.

Know that you are in the right and that many here at a minimum are rooting for an equitable outcome.

longknocker · 11-12-2021, 06:33 AM

Praying For You, Garry!

CigarSquid · 11-12-2021, 07:13 AM

Thanks guys! I did get a few things squared away yesterday to relive some stress.

longknocker · 11-12-2021, 08:12 AM

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Originally Posted by garryyjr

Thanks guys! I did get a few things squared away yesterday to relive some stress.

sigsauer · 11-12-2021, 08:15 AM

please don't take this the wrong way.....first off I'd get back on the depression medication and get back to the therapist......
also I'd be very careful about what you discuss on any website as of course this could be misconstrued and used against you.

icehog3 · 11-12-2021, 08:37 AM

Garry, I'm glad some positive things happened yesterday, and I'm hoping the situation gets squared away in a fair manner soon.

CigarSquid · 11-12-2021, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by sigsauer

please don't take this the wrong way.....first off I'd get back on the depression medication and get back to the therapist......
also I'd be very careful about what you discuss on any website as of course this could be misconstrued and used against you.

I don't believe I ever stopped my medication and I started therapy again a few months ago.

Fully aware of where and what I express.

Havanaaddict · 11-12-2021, 01:39 PM

Garry so sorry this is happening to you. I have a friend that went through the same sort of thing. The crazy ex wife simple made a claim that he was molesting there daughter and he was guilty till he could prove innocent. He spent thousands and thousands of dollars and years fighting. He finally got through everything but it took a long time. When his daughter turned 16 she could finally see what a whack job her mom was and all the BS she had been telling her was really BS. She asked the courts to go live with her father and they agreed. It all worked out in the end but it took a long time. But they are happy and have a great relationship! I have no idea what you are feeling and how hard it must be! God loves you and he is with you through this!
You will be in my prayers!!!

CigarSquid · 09-12-2022, 01:37 PM

Guys, UPDATE.

First off, thank you all for the support. I was in court on the 1st and got the order on my daughters birthday last week. It isn't what I was after, but a HUGE step in the right direction. I get her every other week, Friday to Monday and all the holidays are back!

I am one super happy dad again!

Porch Dweller · 09-12-2022, 02:14 PM

I love good news!

CigarSquid · 09-12-2022, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Porch Dweller

I love good news!

Me too!

markem · 09-12-2022, 02:22 PM

Excellent news, congrats!

Chainsaw13 · 09-12-2022, 03:16 PM

Congrats Garry!

03-09-2021, 06:00 PM	#21
icehog3 Admiral Douchebag Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Tom Location: Clermont, Kentucky Posts: 71,290 Trading: (60)	Re: Custody Battle Garry, I'm sorry to hear you're struggling My Friend. The pain of being apart from the most important person in your life coupled with false accusations is a tough road to hoe. I don't have a lot of job advice as I haven't been in the job market for decades. But I can offer an ear and any support I can help with. You've got us on your side, Garry, continue to be strong and lean on us as much as you need. __________________ Thanks Dave, Julian, James, Kelly, Peter, Gerry, Dave, Mo, Frank, Týr and Mr. Mark!

03-09-2021, 07:04 PM	#23
CigarNut Fck Cancer! Join Date: Jan 2009 First Name: Michael Location: Clermont, Florida Posts: 18,042 Trading: (111*)	Re: Custody Battle My thoughts and prayers are with you. __________________ Need Beads? Need Five Finger Bags? 2 of 3 Requirements for use of the CA Rolodex: 100 posts/ 60 day membership/ participation in trade (trader rating). New members can be added at any time.

03-10-2021, 07:52 AM	#24
RevSmoke Ain't Never Gonna Leave Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Todd Location: Northcentral woods of Wisconsin Posts: 6,849 Trading: (51)	Re: Custody Battle A big part of working through things is having the place to "vent" comfortably. What I mean by that is a place you can get it off your chest and know that it is confidential. So your recent post in which you do that is indeed therapeutic. It is necessary though to have someone to work with these medical issues with you locally. It is good that you can bend here, but that local medical help for the depression and other things is necessary. I see someone else is already linked you to Dave Ramsey stuff in regard to budgeting, it's a good place to begin. I don't know what your faith life is like, but I have people come to me on a regular basis to help them put their life and faith together in a manner that helps to alleviate some things. I am not a therapist, I approach things from an entirely different perspective, but pastor and therapist working together, able to share information, can make a big difference. What I can do from here, it's great for you. Especially that God gives you the strength to endure the difficult days. Piece of the Lord be with you. __________________ Todd__ "Smoke what you like, and enjoy it!"

11-11-2021, 04:35 PM	#26
CigarSquid AKA Garryyjr Join Date: Apr 2011 First Name: Garry Location: Medford, OR - Cigar Zombie Posts: 3,213 Trading: (39)	Re: Custody Battle Guys, I'm struggling hard. Had court yesterday. Still don't have time with my daughter but they forced me to cover her on my insurance. I have no problem providing for her, but with the $730 in child support and close to $600 for insurance, I will have hardly any paycheck left. I have been out of it all day just wondering how I'm going to survive in the months to come. I have started going back to therapy. Thanks for being a place to vent. __________________ gaRRy Last edited by CigarSquid; 11-11-2021 at 04:36 PM. Reason: Grammer

11-11-2021, 08:32 PM	#27
RevSmoke Ain't Never Gonna Leave Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Todd Location: Northcentral woods of Wisconsin Posts: 6,849 Trading: (51)	Re: Custody Battle You are in my prayers! __________________ Todd__ "Smoke what you like, and enjoy it!"

11-12-2021, 06:29 AM	#28
mosesbotbol That's a Corgi Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Moses Location: Boston Posts: 6,171 Trading: (6)	Re: Custody Battle Your daughter will appreciate your devotion and struggles your ex has put you through when she is old enough to understand such things. Know that you are in the right and that many here at a minimum are rooting for an equitable outcome. __________________ Port Wine & Claret \| British Cars \| Welsh Corgi's

11-12-2021, 06:33 AM	#29
longknocker Postwhore Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Greg Location: Mobile, Alabama Posts: 11,162 Trading: (82)	Re: Custody Battle Praying For You, Garry!

11-12-2021, 07:13 AM	#30
CigarSquid AKA Garryyjr Join Date: Apr 2011 First Name: Garry Location: Medford, OR - Cigar Zombie Posts: 3,213 Trading: (39)	Re: Custody Battle Thanks guys! I did get a few things squared away yesterday to relive some stress. __________________ gaRRy

11-12-2021, 08:15 AM	#32
sigsauer Have My Own Room Join Date: Dec 2008 First Name: Tom Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 1,370 Trading: (63)	Re: Custody Battle please don't take this the wrong way.....first off I'd get back on the depression medication and get back to the therapist...... also I'd be very careful about what you discuss on any website as of course this could be misconstrued and used against you.

11-12-2021, 08:37 AM	#33
icehog3 Admiral Douchebag Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Tom Location: Clermont, Kentucky Posts: 71,290 Trading: (60)	Re: Custody Battle Garry, I'm glad some positive things happened yesterday, and I'm hoping the situation gets squared away in a fair manner soon. __________________ Thanks Dave, Julian, James, Kelly, Peter, Gerry, Dave, Mo, Frank, Týr and Mr. Mark!

11-12-2021, 01:39 PM	#35
Havanaaddict Man in Black!!! Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: V.I.P Room Partagas Factory Posts: 3,448 Trading: (1)	Re: Custody Battle Garry so sorry this is happening to you. I have a friend that went through the same sort of thing. The crazy ex wife simple made a claim that he was molesting there daughter and he was guilty till he could prove innocent. He spent thousands and thousands of dollars and years fighting. He finally got through everything but it took a long time. When his daughter turned 16 she could finally see what a whack job her mom was and all the BS she had been telling her was really BS. She asked the courts to go live with her father and they agreed. It all worked out in the end but it took a long time. But they are happy and have a great relationship! I have no idea what you are feeling and how hard it must be! God loves you and he is with you through this! You will be in my prayers!!! __________________ "If my answers frighten you then you should cease asking scary questions." "Hav-a-na nice day"

09-12-2022, 01:37 PM	#36
CigarSquid AKA Garryyjr Join Date: Apr 2011 First Name: Garry Location: Medford, OR - Cigar Zombie Posts: 3,213 Trading: (39)	Re: Custody Battle Guys, UPDATE. First off, thank you all for the support. I was in court on the 1st and got the order on my daughters birthday last week. It isn't what I was after, but a HUGE step in the right direction. I get her every other week, Friday to Monday and all the holidays are back! I am one super happy dad again! __________________ gaRRy

09-12-2022, 02:14 PM	#37
Porch Dweller Life is for living Join Date: Oct 2012 First Name: James Location: Mississippi Gulf Coast Posts: 8,397 Trading: (24)	Re: Custody Battle I love good news! __________________ A 1911 in the hand is faster than 911 on the phone

09-12-2022, 02:22 PM	#39
markem Bunion Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Mark Location: Second Star on the Right Posts: 22,622 Trading: (47)	Re: Custody Battle Excellent news, congrats! __________________ I refuse to belong to any organization that would have me as a member. ~ Groucho Marx

09-12-2022, 03:16 PM	#40
Chainsaw13 Møøse bites can be nasty Join Date: Jan 2010 First Name: Bob Location: The Enchanted Mitten Posts: 7,180 Trading: (96)	Re: Custody Battle Congrats Garry! __________________ My neighbor came by my house this morning at 2AM, pounding on the door. Good thing I was still up playing the drums.