Dating a co-worker - Page 2

ApexAZ · 12-19-2014, 06:18 PM

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Originally Posted by T.G

Depends, is she hot?

She is insanely hot. She is also a great person all around.

So...hard...to...resist.

icehog3 · 12-19-2014, 06:20 PM

I've seen it maybe 10 times on my job in 28 years. 1 time it worked out, it led at least 4 to be fired or have to quit, and made for uncomfortable situations for the rest of them. I don't do it, and would advise against it if you want to stay happy and secure in your job.

AdamJoshua · 12-19-2014, 06:33 PM

If nothing else, my father left me with a very good piece of advice... .

Never sh!t where you eat.

Ogre · 12-19-2014, 06:34 PM

Don't get your honey where you make your money

Remo · 12-19-2014, 07:16 PM

If it goes south then it will be awkward.

That being said I dated a co-worker for 5 years, and have been married for 8 more, lucky ones I guess!

AdamJoshua · 12-19-2014, 07:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Remo

If it goes south then it will be awkward.

That being said I dated a co-worker for 5 years, and have been married for 8 more, lucky ones I guess!

Yah but how did it work out for her?

Ogre · 12-19-2014, 07:47 PM

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Originally Posted by AdamJoshua

Yah but how did it work out for her?

He has to behave, she is a better shot.

Remo · 12-19-2014, 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by AdamJoshua

Yah but how did it work out for her?

nutcracker · 12-19-2014, 09:29 PM

It's a "it depends" answer.
Hanging out, checking compatibility, etc.

I would follow by instinct if I were you. Chemistry is the thing.

Where else do you meet someone? A bar/ online??

Not necessarily any less risk these days.....

Remo · 12-19-2014, 09:31 PM

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Originally Posted by nutcracker

It's a "it depends" answer.
Hanging out, checking compatibility, etc.

I would follow by instinct if I were you. Chemistry is the thing.

Where else do you meet someone? A bar/ online??

Not necessarily any less risk these days.....

Risk is if it doesn't work out you have to see them every day.

Col. Kurtz · 12-19-2014, 09:53 PM

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Originally Posted by ApexAZ

She is insanely hot. She is also a great person all around.

So...hard...to...resist.

Careful. She may be a dude. See hot/crazy matrix

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hKWmFWRVLlU

nutcracker · 12-19-2014, 09:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Col. Kurtz

Careful. She may be a dude. See hot/crazy matrix

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hKWmFWRVLlU

shilala · 12-20-2014, 05:58 AM

I'm on the fence, but it's only because I'm not you and I don't know where you're at in how you feel about your divorce.
Consider this...
Is it fair to foist damaged goods on someone you hope to love?

That kept me from getting involved with anyone for a solid year after my divorce, and my marriage had been over for 3 years before that.
About 5 years after my divorce, I'd worked on myself enough that I knew I could be married again and do it right. So I swore off sex and started dating. I spent a lot of time with a lot of women until I got married.
To me, that was the right way to go about it.

I see no reason why you can't see this girl out of work, as a friend.
But examine your intentions, and whether or not you can even deal with it.
Not many guys take the advice you got. But it's all good advice, and there's lots of personal experiences to back it up.
It's not about what us guys can handle, it's about what you can handle and your motivation. Just be honest with yourself and you'll be okay.

Theo Cincy · 12-20-2014, 08:19 AM

Well put Scott!

sigsauer · 12-20-2014, 08:51 AM

I've read this 6 times or more and still this statement concerns me.."We seem to connect on an emotional level, but I've always been tied up in marriage."
"tied up in anything" sounds like a negative perception with regards to relationships..
my advice.....take a year off from dating and then after 12 months if you still think you need to pursue this person then have at it...

timj219 · 12-20-2014, 08:55 AM

What Scott said. But maybe this is easier to remember: think about it with the big head and you'll make the right decision.

jjirons69 · 12-21-2014, 10:36 PM

To each his own, Brian. Odds are it won't work, but there's a slim chance it could. By not getting involved, nothing loss, but certainly something promising not gained. By getting involved, worst thing would be the worst thing you could imagine happening at work (see above); best thing, a great relationship starts up and a big future ahead (see above). I see it as a gamble. Given my experience and what I've seen and lived through, I would probably pass, especially if I really liked where I worked.

T.G · 12-21-2014, 10:52 PM

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Originally Posted by ApexAZ

She is insanely hot. She is also a great person all around.

So...hard...to...resist.

Does she like photocopiers?

12-22-2014, 12:03 AM

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Originally Posted by CigarNut

If nothing else, it would be worth having a conversation with her to see if you guys are even on the same page...

+1 to this. What if this is 'the one' ? At least have the chat. If nothing else, she should feel flattered. Just keep the dialogue away from work!

12-22-2014, 12:04 AM

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Originally Posted by T.G

Depends, is she hot?

Like the way Adam thinks!

12-19-2014, 06:20 PM	#22
icehog3 Admiral Douchebag Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Tom Location: Clermont, Kentucky Posts: 71,301 Trading: (60)	Re: Dating a co-worker I've seen it maybe 10 times on my job in 28 years. 1 time it worked out, it led at least 4 to be fired or have to quit, and made for uncomfortable situations for the rest of them. I don't do it, and would advise against it if you want to stay happy and secure in your job. __________________ Thanks Dave, Julian, James, Kelly, Peter, Gerry, Dave, Mo, Frank, Týr and Mr. Mark!

12-19-2014, 06:33 PM	#23
AdamJoshua Article 4 Free Inhabitant Join Date: Jan 2013 First Name: The Other Adam Location: Satellite Beach Posts: 14,787 Trading: (40)	Re: Dating a co-worker If nothing else, my father left me with a very good piece of advice... . Never sh!t where you eat.

12-19-2014, 06:34 PM	#24
Ogre **CENSORED** Join Date: Apr 2010 First Name: Larry Location: Central Florida Posts: 12,068 Trading: (46)	Re: Dating a co-worker Don't get your honey where you make your money __________________

12-19-2014, 07:16 PM	#25
Remo C.I.A Join Date: Feb 2011 First Name: Mike Location: Palm Harbor, Florida Posts: 12,597 Trading: (122)	Re: Dating a co-worker If it goes south then it will be awkward. That being said I dated a co-worker for 5 years, and have been married for 8 more, lucky ones I guess! __________________

12-19-2014, 09:29 PM	#29
nutcracker Shameless epicurian Join Date: Apr 2014 First Name: Neil Location: Winnipeg, Canada - Home of the Jets! Posts: 1,631 Trading: (26)	Re: Dating a co-worker It's a "it depends" answer. Hanging out, checking compatibility, etc. I would follow by instinct if I were you. Chemistry is the thing. Where else do you meet someone? A bar/ online?? Not necessarily any less risk these days..... __________________ "Well I ain't often right but I've never been wrong.... Jerry Garcia (R.I.P.)

12-20-2014, 05:58 AM	#33
shilala Dear Lord, Thank You. Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Scott Posts: 13,721 Trading: (252)	Re: Dating a co-worker I'm on the fence, but it's only because I'm not you and I don't know where you're at in how you feel about your divorce. Consider this... Is it fair to foist damaged goods on someone you hope to love? That kept me from getting involved with anyone for a solid year after my divorce, and my marriage had been over for 3 years before that. About 5 years after my divorce, I'd worked on myself enough that I knew I could be married again and do it right. So I swore off sex and started dating. I spent a lot of time with a lot of women until I got married. To me, that was the right way to go about it. I see no reason why you can't see this girl out of work, as a friend. But examine your intentions, and whether or not you can even deal with it. Not many guys take the advice you got. But it's all good advice, and there's lots of personal experiences to back it up. It's not about what us guys can handle, it's about what you can handle and your motivation. Just be honest with yourself and you'll be okay. __________________

12-20-2014, 08:19 AM	#34
Theo Cincy Feeling at Home Join Date: Dec 2011 First Name: Theo Location: Cincinnati OH Posts: 646 Trading: (33)	Re: Dating a co-worker Well put Scott!

12-20-2014, 08:51 AM	#35
sigsauer Have My Own Room Join Date: Dec 2008 First Name: Tom Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 1,370 Trading: (63)	Re: Dating a co-worker I've read this 6 times or more and still this statement concerns me.."We seem to connect on an emotional level, but I've always been tied up in marriage." "tied up in anything" sounds like a negative perception with regards to relationships.. my advice.....take a year off from dating and then after 12 months if you still think you need to pursue this person then have at it...

12-20-2014, 08:55 AM	#36
timj219 Feeling at Home Join Date: Jun 2010 First Name: Tim Location: Binghamton, NY Posts: 699 Trading: (15)	Re: Dating a co-worker What Scott said. But maybe this is easier to remember: think about it with the big head and you'll make the right decision. __________________ "All this of Pot and Potter - Tell me then, Who is the Potter, pray, and who the Pot?" Omar Khayyam

12-21-2014, 10:36 PM	#37
jjirons69 Haberdasher Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Jamie Location: Chucktown, SC Posts: 4,120 Trading: (94)	Re: Dating a co-worker To each his own, Brian. Odds are it won't work, but there's a slim chance it could. By not getting involved, nothing loss, but certainly something promising not gained. By getting involved, worst thing would be the worst thing you could imagine happening at work (see above); best thing, a great relationship starts up and a big future ahead (see above). I see it as a gamble. Given my experience and what I've seen and lived through, I would probably pass, especially if I really liked where I worked. __________________ Somebody has to go back and get a chitload of dimes