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07-02-2009, 10:02 AM | #1 | |
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Man I hope he doesn't resent me...My dad always worked so I was never forced to do anything...so I basically didn't and have regrets...kinda living through my son I guess. |
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07-02-2009, 09:59 AM | #2 |
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Re: I feel like a a$$...my son and baseball.
We let the boys play whatever they wanted. Only deal was, once you start a season, you finish the season. Went through soccer, tee-ball, football and indoor roller hockey. One season each (and they were not happy about finishing the season in a couple of those).
Ice hockey they loved and still do. I'm big on effort as well. That's all I ever asked of the boys. Just remember that if he enjoys what he's doing the effort is there. If he doesn't.....well, kids are no different than us in that regard. |
07-02-2009, 10:04 AM | #3 |
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Re: I feel like a a$$...my son and baseball.
I pushed my son too hard as a young one. It took a long time to heal the wounds. Now, as a 15-year-old he's found that basketball is his passion and needs no pushing. He still has issues playing hard for coaches and teams he doesn't like and I know exactly where he gets it from! I do believe they need a push sometimes and sometimes you just have to let them find their own way. It's a very deilcate balance that I think parents have to learn as they go. There's no manual for it.
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07-02-2009, 10:11 AM | #4 | |
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Man you said it! Delicate balance is right! I am glad I brought this up...it is interesting seeing the varying viewpoints. |
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07-02-2009, 10:37 AM | #5 |
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Re: I feel like a a$$...my son and baseball.
My daughter is 6 and we tried the soccer thing last year. She loves being outside and really got into the gear, but once on the field it was pretty much over. She's also a bit "too" polite, and didn't want anything to do with being aggressive. We tried to push her a little (myself more than the wife of course), but in the end soccer just wasn't her thing. Kids have a lot more opportunities and endeavors thrown their way then we did. I have to remind myself of that, and remember to let her forge her own path instead of just following mine.
I hope your boy feels better soon!
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07-02-2009, 10:41 AM | #6 | |
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Soccer was brutal! I don't make him do that anymore. He is feeling much better today! Thanks! |
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07-02-2009, 10:27 AM | #7 | |
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07-02-2009, 12:03 PM | #8 |
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07-02-2009, 10:54 AM | #9 |
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Other than apologizing, I would just give him a bit of space. Being a kid is basically finding out what you like. I remember when I was younger, and all I really was into was basketball, tennis, and computers. My Dad still pushed me into little league, despite me not being able to hit or throw lol.
Still hate thinking of those days, as it was a chore just going out there to have him disappointed in how I played. Blah. Anyway, just try to get to know what his interests are, and if at this point it is too early, just try to do things with him (hockey, basketball, tennis, tap/ballet hehe, etc). He might be bitter about being sick and you pushing him, but apologizing goes a long way, and you have already done that. Sounds like you are on the right track on all fronts, so kudos. |
07-02-2009, 10:59 AM | #10 | |
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Ok, I was on board until you said tap/ballet! |
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07-02-2009, 12:02 PM | #11 |
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Re: I feel like a a$$...my son and baseball.
What if what he wants is to dance. What if he tries it and loves it. If you try to reject it because you don't like the activity, you will only push him away. I am speaking from the perspective of someone who was entirely on the music/artistic side of things as a kid/young adult and wish my parents had at least tried some activities on the athletic side with me.
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07-02-2009, 12:27 PM | #12 |
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Re: I feel like a a$$...my son and baseball.
As a mother, what I have learned from raising my kids. The best thing you can do is talk to them. My favorite talk time is in the car on the way to somewhere when no one is there. I seem to get better answers and it is harder to be ignored when you control the radio.
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07-02-2009, 01:26 PM | #13 | |
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I found out so much about my kids by just being quiet on long car rides and listening. Chas |
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07-02-2009, 04:52 PM | #14 |
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Re: I feel like a a$$...my son and baseball.
Just to toss in my 2 cents - I'm a firm believer in letting kids decide what they want to do without pushing into what I (or any parent) want them to do.
So what if he doesn't like those sports - there are a ton of other things to explore. What kind of TV shows and video games does he like? Might be a clue. If he likes video games where he gets to kick some butt - maybe some form of martial arts is in line. He won't be in direct competition to start and can move along at his pace. Racing videos - build a go-kart together - he could be the next Richard Petty. Get him a decent camera - great excuse to go hiking and camping for photo shots. And don't laugh at dancing, gymnastics, swimming, etc - it all keeps him active. I have two small nieces that love to go rock climbing - builds strength, physically and mentally. Paintball! Now there is a workout! You know - just look for those non-traditional (big 3 sports) things to do - you just never know. And how about bowling? Go to any bowling center and they will have sign up sheets for various leagues: kids only and parent/kids leagues. That was the key to my daughters and I. My oldest has kept at it and last year at the Virginia State Women's tourney placed a first, two seconds and a fourth. There is something out there . . . As for the sick not sick thing - hey - your t-shirt is in the mail. As parents we have all been there and done that. Good luck - Ron |
07-02-2009, 04:54 PM | #15 | |
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