What would you do?

[Starscream]

Originally Posted by blugill

I'm not concerned about hanky panky or anything like that. There would be three altogether and not a big deal.
His mom married into a family that owns a dealership, he's spoiled, lazy, and I don't care for him.
He never shook my hand or introduced himself, he was afraid to come up and try to talk to me when I was sitting outside in the lawn with a cigar and drink.
And hopefully the days on this puppy live relationship are numbered but likely not until after July 6.
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Is he an outgoing person or loudmouth? If not, he could be an introvert and shy, which would make the case for him not going up to you and introducing himself. He could have been scared.

[Bill86]

Originally Posted by blugill

He never shook my hand or introduced himself, he was afraid to come up and try to talk to me when I was sitting outside in the lawn with a cigar and drink.
And hopefully the days on this puppy live relationship are numbered but likely not until after July 6.
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You answered your own question. Nope. He stays behind. Further more explain to your daughter the importance of an introduction and not being a weasily little $hit.

[blugill]

Originally Posted by Bill86

You answered your own question. Nope. He stays behind. Further more explain to your daughter the importance of an introduction and not being a weasily little $hit.

Agreed completely!
However the decision has been made and it was to keep the peace between my wife and I more than between the daughter and I.
Slug is riding along BUT he will pay for a full tank of gas, a considerable sum since I drive a Tahoe

[racerX]

Wise choice and one you may be glad you made when the sun goes down on July 6th in Bonner springs. This also gives you an opening to call Slugs folks for a little back ground check.

[forgop]

The joys of teenage daughters. I have an 8 year old that's going on 18 in her opinion. First thing is that my daughter won't be leaving the house without said introduction and a full account of where they're going and who they will be with. If they're going to be with friends, I will need phone numbers of those parents to ensure they're aware of the same story. The young man will also go on a walk with me around the block explaining the expectations of dating my daughter in terms of never lying to me, if they're anywhere that something is taking place that she shouldn't be around, they leave and notify me, no drugs, alcohol, tobacco, and she better be home by curfew. Failure to comply will result in him being found floating in my pond from an accidental drowning.

It also just happens that I have a MobileMe account and my daughters phones will be linked. It can give me their location at any moment. Failure to be where they're supposed to be when they say they'll be there will result in me hunting them down and dragging him out by his ear with a pair of pliers.

But that's just me.

[Remo]

Just don't bury the bodies in your yard, and unless there is video evidence, deny, deny, deny

[shark]

Even when I was in my thirties and dating, I took the time to meet my girlfriend's parents, and made it a point to leave them with a good impression of me.

[shark]

Originally Posted by forgop

The joys of teenage daughters. I have an 8 year old that's going on 18 in her opinion. First thing is that my daughter won't be leaving the house without said introduction and a full account of where they're going and who they will be with. If they're going to be with friends, I will need phone numbers of those parents to ensure they're aware of the same story. The young man will also go on a walk with me around the block explaining the expectations of dating my daughter in terms of never lying to me, if they're anywhere that something is taking place that she shouldn't be around, they leave and notify me, no drugs, alcohol, tobacco, and she better be home by curfew. Failure to comply will result in him being found floating in my pond from an accidental drowning.

It also just happens that I have a MobileMe account and my daughters phones will be linked. It can give me their location at any moment. Failure to be where they're supposed to be when they say they'll be there will result in me hunting them down and dragging him out by his ear with a pair of pliers.

But that's just me.

I like the way this man thinks! After all, we were all teenagers at one point. I'll leave it at that!

[Eleven]

Originally Posted by jledou

It may not be the best thing in the world for you at the time, but several hours together in a car may just be the ticket to drive them apart.
BTW let us know if you have some free time in while you are in the area.

QFT.

I had this unbelievably cute girlfriend when I was 17, she was 15. I went on a weekend trip with her and the rest of her immediate family. I literally could not wait to get back home, and I broke up with her the very next time I saw her.

I wish you luck!

[neoflex]

I would have stuck to my guns and left him behind but maybe the long ride in the car will be good as maybe he will open up to you finally.
When I was in Jr High and High School and was a dirt bag when it came to girls but I always made sure to introduce myself to the parents especially the Fathers. Hell most of the parents loved me until I dumped their daughters a few weeks later but I learned early that if the parents liked you it made things easier especially being left alone with their daughters. This is why even before we tried having kids I knew I would have a daughter first and can guarantee that the next one will be a girl too. "Karma works in strange ways " Hell, I remember one girl I dated that I had to get rid of her because she was a complete psycho but it was tough because I actually enjoyed hanging out with her dad as we would often hang out in the garage and have a beer together and talk cars and actually stuck around too long because of it. Hopefully if he is as bad as you think it will be a short lived relationship. If not hopefully the ride will help open up the lines of communication between the two of you. Good luck.

[Big_Ern]

just make sure he sits up front next to you for the ride there and back. otherwise one might crash due from staring in the rear view mirror. you could also let him know you have a meat grinder and really good friend who is a hog farmer in the next state!

[Blak Smyth]

I just watched Uncle Buck this weekend and this thread made me think of when he puts Bug in his truck.

[68TriShield]

I say no.It seems nobody has given him a talk on how to be a man and meet and shake hands with the dad.
And that shows a lack of respect on his part.If he can't figure that out on his own,his personality leaves much to be desired.
He obviously hasn't had any guidance from his own father or step father.

[DPD6030]

I'm with most here and say no. If he can't respect you and shake your hand and have a talk with you then how is he going to respect your daughter. to taking him.

[justonemorestick]

Take him along but first take him out in the woods desert old farmland etc and give him a shovel and make him dig the hole for you and explain that you have rules and expectations that he will take care of your daughter and her friend and respect your rules. After that let him go besides if she has stupid with her she has at least one reason not to hookup with Mr Concert Dumass while she is there.

[kelmac07]

I'd say no as well...she is 16 and should consider herself lucky to be going with her best friend. That should be enough. But I realize kids today are part of that "instant gratification" generation. The expect everything NOW. Best of luck in your decision dad.

[area51]

Nothing good will come of him going, or him staying behind.

[blugill]

Originally Posted by area51

Nothing good will come of him going, or him staying behind.

Don't I know it.
Thankfully I believe the shelf life on this boyfriend is short lived.

[Gophernut]

Originally Posted by blugill

Don't I know it.
Thankfully I believe the shelf life on this boyfriend is short lived.

They mostly all are at that age. Don't sweat it. Be nice, the kid is probably just afraid of you. I know my daughter's "boyfriends" all were of me.