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BradNC · 11-24-2009, 12:48 PM

I know that is a "broad" topic. Sorry but couldn't resist leading with that. Anyway, I need some help. I've been seeing the same girl for a few years and work with her as well (I know, I know....mistake to begin with). I like quite a bit of things about her and I can be myself around her which is nice. She even puts up with cigars. : ) She would like to get married one day and has a kid which doesn't seem to respect me much no matter what I do. We've kept our relationship private at work and I think she wants to change that. The drama of her ex also is interesting. I don't know that I ever want to get remarried again (done that once - I'm 37 - never had kids) or if I can handle trying to raise someone else's kid or having such responsibility when in reality I have very little input on the daughter - she is 10. I just don't know. She can be fairly selfish and wants to end things (told me Monday) since she knows how I feel about getting remarried and her daughter not respecting me.

I'd appreciate any input. This could make my work life hell so I'm not sure if we do part ways how we can both remain at the same place. The good thing is I would only see her on Wednesdays but we have to email and work on projects together most of the time so we interact most of the week even if I'm not in the office. My job is very good as well as the pay so I can't afford to really leave that. I've been looking for another one for some time but no results yet. It really hurts to think of losing her but I guess if I know my limitations, I have to be true to that. She has known my views on marriage and her daughter for over a year or more.

Thank you in advance for your help. Funny how I feel like I can come to y'all for help but not even to folks I know locally. Guess that speaks to the power of cigars.

11-24-2009, 12:48 PM	#1
BradNC Formerly BradSacramento Join Date: Nov 2008 First Name: Brad Location: Roseville Posts: 264 Trading: (9)	Women I know that is a "broad" topic. Sorry but couldn't resist leading with that. Anyway, I need some help. I've been seeing the same girl for a few years and work with her as well (I know, I know....mistake to begin with). I like quite a bit of things about her and I can be myself around her which is nice. She even puts up with cigars. : ) She would like to get married one day and has a kid which doesn't seem to respect me much no matter what I do. We've kept our relationship private at work and I think she wants to change that. The drama of her ex also is interesting. I don't know that I ever want to get remarried again (done that once - I'm 37 - never had kids) or if I can handle trying to raise someone else's kid or having such responsibility when in reality I have very little input on the daughter - she is 10. I just don't know. She can be fairly selfish and wants to end things (told me Monday) since she knows how I feel about getting remarried and her daughter not respecting me. I'd appreciate any input. This could make my work life hell so I'm not sure if we do part ways how we can both remain at the same place. The good thing is I would only see her on Wednesdays but we have to email and work on projects together most of the time so we interact most of the week even if I'm not in the office. My job is very good as well as the pay so I can't afford to really leave that. I've been looking for another one for some time but no results yet. It really hurts to think of losing her but I guess if I know my limitations, I have to be true to that. She has known my views on marriage and her daughter for over a year or more. Thank you in advance for your help. Funny how I feel like I can come to y'all for help but not even to folks I know locally. Guess that speaks to the power of cigars.