Dating a co-worker - Page 3

RWhisenand · 12-21-2014, 11:16 PM

You know, maybe I'm just being contradictory but I say go for it. If it dosent work out, move on with a different job, or have her move to a different job.

mosesbotbol · 12-22-2014, 04:43 AM

If it goes south, what are you options with work? Could you find another job? I would look at my financial security first. Also, at this stage in your life, how sure are you about your emotional state? It takes a while before you are in the right state of mind to find a lasting relationship (if that is what you want).

Some need companionship, others are just looking for a physical pleasure. Not saying one is better than the other; but don't mix which is appropriate right now.

RobR1205 · 12-22-2014, 07:40 AM

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Originally Posted by mosesbotbol

If it goes south, what are you options with work? Could you find another job? I would look at my financial security first. Also, at this stage in your life, how sure are you about your emotional state? It takes a while before you are in the right state of mind to find a lasting relationship (if that is what you want).

Some need companionship, others are just looking for a physical pleasure. Not saying one is better than the other; but don't mix which is appropriate right now.

Well said.

shilala · 12-22-2014, 08:22 AM

I rethought this and I say go ahead and hit it.

jjirons69 · 12-22-2014, 08:49 AM

Oh Scott...

OLS · 12-22-2014, 10:02 AM

I would also like to chime in on the "relax and enjoy it" theme......being free again is one of the best feelings that
a grown man can experience....savor it.....suck, don't crunch. I know its EASIER to date from work, it means you
don't have to go out and spend money on the hunt. But ENJOY the freedom, play the field, don't get serious too quick.

And then, when you remember you're only going to have hair and a young man's body for so long, then get down
to business and get serious.

ApexAZ · 12-22-2014, 10:38 AM

Lots of people at the bank seem to date each other and I've seen many marriages, but not so much with people who work in such close proximity. We're so big it's not uncommon to learn about husbands and wives who both work here, but usually they are in different areas. Although there's been several instances of relationships in my building that I know about.

That said, I'm aware of my own divorce situation and I'm trying to be mindful of that. I am feeling like I'm recovering fairly quickly from my divorce, but I also do not want to risk rebounding with someone at work.

Right now it's just friendly and I have indicated to her in indirect ways that I'm not yet at a point where I'm ready to date anyone. This alone may have doomed me to perpetual friend zone status, who knows? Either way I'm proceeding with caution and if it blossoms into something more, great! If not, then no harm done. I do worry about work and sexual harassment and all that though.

12-21-2014, 11:16 PM	#41
RWhisenand Feeling at Home Join Date: Aug 2011 First Name: Rob Location: Nevada Posts: 798 Trading: (7)	Re: Dating a co-worker You know, maybe I'm just being contradictory but I say go for it. If it dosent work out, move on with a different job, or have her move to a different job. __________________ No function well beer without.

12-22-2014, 04:43 AM	#42
mosesbotbol That's a Corgi Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Moses Location: Boston Posts: 6,171 Trading: (6)	Re: Dating a co-worker If it goes south, what are you options with work? Could you find another job? I would look at my financial security first. Also, at this stage in your life, how sure are you about your emotional state? It takes a while before you are in the right state of mind to find a lasting relationship (if that is what you want). Some need companionship, others are just looking for a physical pleasure. Not saying one is better than the other; but don't mix which is appropriate right now. __________________ Port Wine & Claret \| British Cars \| Welsh Corgi's

12-22-2014, 08:22 AM	#44
shilala Dear Lord, Thank You. Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Scott Posts: 13,721 Trading: (252)	Re: Dating a co-worker I rethought this and I say go ahead and hit it. __________________

12-22-2014, 08:49 AM	#45
jjirons69 Haberdasher Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Jamie Location: Chucktown, SC Posts: 4,120 Trading: (94)	Re: Dating a co-worker Oh Scott... __________________ Somebody has to go back and get a chitload of dimes

12-22-2014, 10:02 AM	#46
OLS Suck It Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Brad Location: TN Posts: 7,912 Trading: (19)	Re: Dating a co-worker I would also like to chime in on the "relax and enjoy it" theme......being free again is one of the best feelings that a grown man can experience....savor it.....suck, don't crunch. I know its EASIER to date from work, it means you don't have to go out and spend money on the hunt. But ENJOY the freedom, play the field, don't get serious too quick. And then, when you remember you're only going to have hair and a young man's body for so long, then get down to business and get serious.

12-22-2014, 10:38 AM	#47
ApexAZ Wandering aimlessly Join Date: Oct 2011 First Name: Brian Location: Sonoran Desert Posts: 1,299 Trading: (10)	Re: Dating a co-worker Lots of people at the bank seem to date each other and I've seen many marriages, but not so much with people who work in such close proximity. We're so big it's not uncommon to learn about husbands and wives who both work here, but usually they are in different areas. Although there's been several instances of relationships in my building that I know about. That said, I'm aware of my own divorce situation and I'm trying to be mindful of that. I am feeling like I'm recovering fairly quickly from my divorce, but I also do not want to risk rebounding with someone at work. Right now it's just friendly and I have indicated to her in indirect ways that I'm not yet at a point where I'm ready to date anyone. This alone may have doomed me to perpetual friend zone status, who knows? Either way I'm proceeding with caution and if it blossoms into something more, great! If not, then no harm done. I do worry about work and sexual harassment and all that though.