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06-09-2010, 02:28 PM | #21 | |
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06-09-2010, 02:48 PM | #22 | |
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06-09-2010, 03:01 PM | #24 | |
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FWIW Carlos, I am on other cigar boards where the things you mention are much, much worse. Maybe I'm not opening up the right threads, but I think people here are respectful and restrained. |
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06-09-2010, 03:04 PM | #25 |
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Re: Why so hateful lately?
I guess I dont gravitate to those threads because I have not seen those words(moron, gay, stupid) in any recent threads. All boards have their ebbs and flows, as new members come on board they sometimes need to "test" the waters. Others after being members for a certain period feel more comfortable voicing their opinions(no matter how wrong they might be). I tend not to read reviews anymore, because I know my tastes. But there are a few members whose opinions I value on any subject whether it be cigars, beer or life. I tend to seek those out and bypass the rest.
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06-09-2010, 03:07 PM | #26 |
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Re: Why so hateful lately?
I agree with Carlos. This thread though might be in reference to another thread where I posted something being 'gay'. IMO I personally feel that it was dumb. I thought we can post on this forum without reproach. If it offended others I apologize but I was just posting how I felt about the topic.
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06-09-2010, 03:09 PM | #27 |
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Re: Why so hateful lately?
I think that this happens from time to time on the best of boards.
My thinking is that the more it is tolerated or ignored, the more it takes hold.
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06-09-2010, 03:09 PM | #28 | |
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06-09-2010, 03:10 PM | #29 |
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Carlos my brother, I would take this personally, if I could take a hint.
In all seriousness, I feel the line between busting somebody's chops and busting their 'nads may indeed be crossed on occasion, here and in "real" life. But I myself tend to take everything said on the 'net with the whole cellar of salt. If something cheeses me off, I try to simply take a breath and let it go. Ommmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. |
06-09-2010, 03:13 PM | #30 | ||
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Don't even think twice about it. Now I feel like I owe you the apology. I swear I didn't mean to call out anyone and if I selected a word for this example that brought you out, that is not what I wanted. I just used that one word as an example. It is not about that one word. It is just a message to all to just think before you post. I personally am not offended but I can see how some are. I have chosen to bring something to light just to make sure it doesn't go the wrong path. Quote:
I have a relatively thick skin so my life goes on just dandy. I am not offended and not the reason for this thread. If this thread makes each and every one of us think for a moment and remember it occasionally, it served the intent. As someone else posted, things get lost behind a keyboard and often times misunderstood. From there, complicated further as emotions fly. Just bringing some light to it.
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06-09-2010, 03:18 PM | #31 |
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I haven't really noticed anything but I really haven't been on too much the last few weeks just due to lack of free time to jump on the web. This is by far my favorite message board just because everyone is so down to earth and doesn't cut each other down for their opinion and is so friendly to each other. I think in general written words can be taken wrong just because it is hard to tell the tone of a post by just reading what the poster wrote and this a lot of times leads to misinterpretation and can lead to hard feelings when the original message is meant in good fun. Hell I know I have done it with a friend on another board who lives local and sometime I'll call him and be like WTF? Why are you cutting me down on the board? He would than explain it and more often than not I interpreted the tone wrong but sometimes he was being a d*ck. All in all I think the Asylum has a great group. Not nearly the BS that goes on, on other BBs.
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06-09-2010, 03:32 PM | #34 | |
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06-09-2010, 03:42 PM | #35 |
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Re: Why so hateful lately?
I didn't realize it until this moment that this thread has served to prove a point that some may have missed while others see as clear as day.
If one reads all the posts you will note some agree while some don't in terms of the original post. If you then consider what most large companies repeatedly preach to their employees, you will understand it does not matter what YOU think about what you said or did. What matters is how what you said is interpreted by the person perceiving it. Again, for me, not a big issue as I don't see where I could ever be offended by what one types but truly intended to just bring light that not everyone feels the same and not everyone perceives things as you do. Just a bit of employee HR training for CA at no charge.
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06-09-2010, 03:54 PM | #36 |
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Great post Carlos.
Rule #3 here at Cigar Asylum starts off saying: Have fun here and practice respect and tolerance with others. Respect is the key word. Often times many of the really offending posts are removed rather quickly by one of the admins before the masses even see them (it helps with 11 of us). We dont get them all, but we try. We try to treat everyone like the adults they are and many times turn a "blind eye" of sorts to somewhat borderline posts. Of course, "borderline posts" is the way we see them but they may be actually offensive to some while meaning nothing to another. We cant make everyone happy, so we leave it up to the individual to decide if they want to keep reading the post/thread or not. In a perfect world we would all get along. Unfortunately its not a perfect world, and Cigar Asylum is part of that imperfect world we all live in. Individuals will argue, not like another member for what ever reasons, etc. here, just like in real life. All I can suggest is to "be the better man". Easier said than done I know, and sometimes being the better man doesn't always mean being right. I'm sure you'll feel better about yourself in the end though and have a more enjoyable time here in this place we call home.
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06-09-2010, 04:15 PM | #37 |
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Re: Why so hateful lately?
Well stated, Kelly (as always).
There are some topics that just seem to, by their nature, invite people to forget the old adage about opinions and assholes. By not allowing politically-related content, that cuts out a lot of these opportunities, but some people will still find ways to pound us with whatever point they think is so crucial for us to know and agree on. Sometimes, those types of posts remind me of the blathering vitriol you'll find reading the comments section of any recent news story or blog--often nearly incoherent internet badasses who feel the need to belittle everyone who disagrees with them, regardless of the amount of reflection and analysis (or lack thereof) they've put into whatever opinion they hold so staunchly. It's disappointing that that kind of thing happens here occasionally (and I do think it is merely occasionally--I think that posts here are overwhelmingly positive). But the good thing is that, if patterns hold true (and they usually do), the people who make those kinds of posts usually realize that's not how things are done here and either conform to the standards and norms of the community or find themselves somewhere else to hang out and spout off.
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06-09-2010, 04:18 PM | #38 |
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06-09-2010, 04:57 PM | #39 |
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As was told to me long ago by a very wise woman (mom). It's not the action that will get you in trouble, but the reaction.
Now this applies to an extent, because obviously ALL people need to be held accountable for their actions, but also their reactions. The internet will be the internet. This thread sparks some paranoia in my own mind because of certain events that transpired. And by no means am I pretending to be innocent, but I'm also not alone in my guilt. That wise woman above also said "It takes two to tango." There will always be quarrels, differing of opinions, spiteful remarks and things said that become personal whether intentional or unintentional. The fine line in all this is intent. It's also the hardest to decipher from internet conversation. Things can scale to a point where the argument is no longer about the topic, but more of pride, or job, or family. In the end it's all useless banter. And in the end what matters is how you come away from it. Whether by offering amends, or simply walking away all together. In a community that many refer to as family, the latter imo is rather ridiculous. And to the person who reads this... and he knows who he is. Offer is still on the table. My .02 from the unwise age of 24. Last edited by JE3146; 06-09-2010 at 05:06 PM. |
06-09-2010, 05:02 PM | #40 |
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Re: Why so hateful lately?
I try to base all my interactions here on one fact and that it is that I never know who I am going to meet in person next. I've herfed with a bunch of you guys and I wouldn't say anything on here I wouldn't be comfortable saying to someone's face or that would make me uncomfortable about if I happen to meet someone in person after.
Like these guys above said, respect is what it's all about. Carlos thanks for the reminder.
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