Girlfriends Dad..

colinb913 · 06-21-2010, 09:01 PM

Apparently my girl friends dad thinks I disrespected him, sometime last night. I really dont know when or how, my girlfriend asked him and i asked him. He refuses to talk about it, let alone tell me how. Me and him were on pretty good standards before last night. Any ideas how to fix this? I have apologized many times over, and really am at a loss.
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G G · 06-21-2010, 09:05 PM

Not sure, but i would try to give him a little time to cool off and then maybe approach him again.

AD720 · 06-21-2010, 09:50 PM

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Originally Posted by ggainey

Not sure, but i would try to give him a little time to cool off and then maybe approach him again.

Be the bigger man. Kill him with kindness until he is ready to talk it out. Remember she is his little girl and you just are a punk kid trying to get into a) her pants and b) his liquor cabinet.

icehog3 · 06-21-2010, 09:52 PM

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Originally Posted by AD720

Be the bigger man. Kill him with kindness until he is ready to talk it out. Remember she is his little girl and you just are a punk kid trying to get into a) her pants and b) his liquor cabinet.

They often go hand in hand.

lostark374 · 06-22-2010, 02:21 AM

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Originally Posted by AD720

Be the big man. Kill him or Beat him until he is ready to talk. Remember she is your little girl and your just trying to get into her pants .

this is meant to be funny. please do not harm him and im sure your intentions are honest.

icehog3 · 06-21-2010, 09:11 PM

No real way to fix it unless he lets her or you know what you did wrong.

I dated a girl when I was between high school and college whos Dad was allegedly a big wig in the Chicago mafia. He felt disrepected because I was Irish.

JaKaacH · 06-21-2010, 09:27 PM

Let him cool down for a few days, then maybe you can find out what you did.

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Originally Posted by icehog3

No real way to fix it unless he lets her or you know what you did wrong.

I dated a girl when I was between high school and college whos Dad was allegedly a big wig in the Chicago mafia. He felt disrepected because I was Irish.

Reminds me of this Tom...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=boO4RowROiw

OLS · 06-22-2010, 07:30 AM

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Originally Posted by icehog3

I dated a girl when I was between high school and college whos Dad was allegedly a big wig in the Chicago mafia. He felt disrepected because I was Irish.

Luckily huge biceps still strike fear in the mob.

Seriously, this is the kind of question you get when you let young guys onto the forum.

They hold forth with questions about how to handle their girlfriends family. hehe Sorry.

Even MORE seriously, I also agree that you should evaluate the sitcho based on the fact
that you can't change people and that cutting loose now makes it alot easier to do. EVERY
girl looks too good to let go when you are in the moment, but sometimes wacko just ain't
worth it. And don't make it worse by trying to get into those levis KNOWING you are gonna
bail. OR find a way to be helpful to her old man, roofing, tough yard work, etc. Give yourself
an opportunity to spend enough time with him that he breaches the subject on his own during
some tough physical labor. Old school men like to talk while they work so they never have to
actually look at you while they bit$h..

icantbejon · 06-22-2010, 11:47 AM

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find a way to be helpful to her old man, roofing, tough yard work, etc. Give yourself an opportunity to spend enough time with him that he breaches the subject on his own during some tough physical labor. Old school men like to talk while they work so they never have to actually look at you while they bit$h..

I've used this method in the past. I dated a German girl (while in Germany) whose father was a WWII aged fella. He didn't care all that much for Americans, and American GI's in particular. He didn't speak a word to me the first few times I came to his place. However, he was destroying a concrete back patio to get to a leak in his basement and I offered help with the very heavy jack hammer. After a day of destroying concrete...I was welcomed into his house and offered his beer.

BigFrank · 06-22-2010, 03:58 PM

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Originally Posted by icehog3

No real way to fix it unless he lets her or you know what you did wrong.

I dated a girl when I was between high school and college whos Dad was allegedly a big wig in the Chicago mafia. He felt disrepected because I was Irish.

damn irish....

sikk50 · 06-21-2010, 09:21 PM

Not to make light of the situation, but something that happened to me once in Junior College....maybe he heard you bumping uglies with his daughter?

icehog3 · 06-21-2010, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by sikk50

Not to make light of the situation, but something that happened to me once in Junior College....maybe he heard you bumping uglies with his daughter?

Once?? Bummer, Andrew.

colinb913 · 06-21-2010, 09:23 PM

Nah, He didnt hear.
Icehog.. I am irish. x

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pnoon · 06-21-2010, 09:24 PM

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Nah, He didnt hear.
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Don't be so sure of yourself.
You'd be surprised at how word travels and/or rumors start.

Brutus2600 · 06-21-2010, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by colinb913

Nah, He didnt hear.
Icehog.. I am irish. x

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If this is a confirmation that you two are on "familiar" terms, there are plenty of things he could've found out that would've pissed him off. Heard it, found some used...items, if she told somebody maybe word got back to him.

(edit: disregard this...looks like you already addressed while I was typing my post)

However this sounds like something that happened in the evening when you were over and things got weird. If you've gone over the events of the night and can't figure it out, and he won't talk about it, take the advice of ggainey and let him cool off. If I've done something that I'm completely clueless about, my girlfriend will get pissed and needs a little time to cool off before she can talk about it otherwise she knows it'll blow up into a huge argument. If he's removing himself from the situation in this way and not talking to you about it, maybe he's just trying not to let the situation get out of hand before he talks to you about it.

I'm with E.J. to keep being pleasent to him, be nice and as respectful as you can be. If he eventually talks to you about it, great. If not, well you're the adult in the situation.

Good luck with the situation man

E.J. · 06-21-2010, 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by colinb913

Apparently my girl friends dad thinks I disrespected him, sometime last night. I really dont know when or how, my girlfriend asked him and i asked him. He refuses to talk about it, let alone tell me how. Me and him were on pretty good standards before last night. Any ideas how to fix this? I have apologized many times over, and really am at a loss.
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If he is such a juvenile that he is giving the silent treatment and will not discuss what you did to offend him....

I'd continue to be pleasant to him and go on about your lives.... When he decides to be an adult, discuss it and move forward....

Blueface · 06-22-2010, 07:01 AM

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Originally Posted by E.J.

I'd continue to be pleasant to him and go on about your lives.... When he decides to be an adult, discuss it and move forward....

mosesbotbol · 06-22-2010, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by E.J.

If he is such a juvenile that he is giving the silent treatment and will not discuss what you did to offend him....

I'd continue to be pleasant to him and go on about your lives.... When he decides to be an adult, discuss it and move forward....

He sounds like a little b i t c h if that is the way he goes about things. It is best to be matter-of-fact on your side and show him that his girl is not going out with a sally who is affraid to speak his mind.

I would not sweat it and just listen to your girl if something else has to be done or said.

colinb913 · 06-21-2010, 09:42 PM

no as in. we havent bumped yet. so he hasnt heard.
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icehog3 · 06-21-2010, 09:48 PM

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Reminds me of this Tom...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=boO4RowROiw

06-21-2010, 09:01 PM	#1
colinb913 Workin' at a Cigar Shop Join Date: Feb 2010 First Name: Colin Location: Indiana Posts: 540 Trading: (1)	Girlfriends Dad.. Apparently my girl friends dad thinks I disrespected him, sometime last night. I really dont know when or how, my girlfriend asked him and i asked him. He refuses to talk about it, let alone tell me how. Me and him were on pretty good standards before last night. Any ideas how to fix this? I have apologized many times over, and really am at a loss. Posted via Mobile Device

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G G BR549 Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Greg Location: Taylor, FL. Posts: 12,730 Trading: (10)	Re: Girlfriends Dad.. Not sure, but i would try to give him a little time to cool off and then maybe approach him again.

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icehog3 Admiral Douchebag Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Tom Location: Clermont, Kentucky Posts: 71,440 Trading: (60)	Re: Girlfriends Dad.. No real way to fix it unless he lets her or you know what you did wrong. I dated a girl when I was between high school and college whos Dad was allegedly a big wig in the Chicago mafia. He felt disrepected because I was Irish. __________________ Thanks Dave, Julian, James, Kelly, Peter, Gerry, Dave, Mo, Frank, Týr and Mr. Mark!

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sikk50 Just Bored Really... Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Andrew Location: The Jefferson State Posts: 2,084 Trading: (13)	Re: Girlfriends Dad.. Not to make light of the situation, but something that happened to me once in Junior College....maybe he heard you bumping uglies with his daughter? __________________ "Not a Headache in a Hogshead"

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colinb913 Workin' at a Cigar Shop Join Date: Feb 2010 First Name: Colin Location: Indiana Posts: 540 Trading: (1)	Re: Girlfriends Dad.. Nah, He didnt hear. Icehog.. I am irish. x Posted via Mobile Device

06-21-2010, 09:42 PM	#19
colinb913 Workin' at a Cigar Shop Join Date: Feb 2010 First Name: Colin Location: Indiana Posts: 540 Trading: (1)	Re: Girlfriends Dad.. no as in. we havent bumped yet. so he hasnt heard. Posted via Mobile Device