Ever get a divorce?

04-14-2009, 11:07 AM

Well I just did. And I must say, after going through everything. Yea it sucks... though worth every penny. If you make a mistake or whatever... better to get going why the going's good!

WOOOT!!!! Drinkin and smoking at Fuse tonight for anyone who's showing up... it's in Rochester MI...

Just gotta figure out what to smoke now.

04-14-2009, 11:10 AM

Wish I could be there to celebrate with you man, smoke a great one for me Dan. Congrats with the big D.

04-14-2009, 11:12 AM

Best wishes on your life going forward Dan.

MedicCook · 04-14-2009, 11:18 AM

Good luck from here on out. I am in the process also.

stitch · 04-14-2009, 11:21 AM

I've done it twice over the years,
Wifey and I have an agreement that she will shoot me rather than go through another.

04-14-2009, 11:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by stitch

I've done it twice over the years,
Wifey and I have an agreement that she will shoot me rather than go through another.

I think our wives are related.

kaisersozei · 04-14-2009, 12:06 PM

I'm glad that this painful period is starting to get behind you, Dan. My separation & divorce about 12 years ago marked some of the darkest days of my life. Not easy with children (mine were 8 & 3 at the time,) but my ex- & I struggled through our differences and life with the kids steadily improved. Found myself remarried a few years later and now, 7 years in to my second & last wife, life is great and my relationship with my children is better than ever.

I can empathize with the struggles you've gone through and wish for you a bright beginning and all the best. Would love to herf with you in celebration tonight, but I'll light one in your honor down here instead.

Take care, brother!

Gerard

DPD6030 · 04-14-2009, 12:15 PM

Dan,
I know you talked with me somewhat on the issues and you know I went through some of the same. I know how you feel about things and your ex. Like many have echo'd here you may not like your ex and your ex may not like you but be civil in front of your daughter. It has been so so much better with my ex and I as we are civil with one another and can get along for our son's sake. It will get better especially when you both move on in your lives and not being part of the life that you "had" together.

Smoke a great stick tonight.

elderboy02 · 04-14-2009, 11:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hardcz

Well I just did. And I must say, after going through everything. Yea it sucks... though worth every penny. If you make a mistake or whatever... better to get going why the going's good!

WOOOT!!!! Drinkin and smoking at Fuse tonight for anyone who's showing up... it's in Rochester MI...

Just gotta figure out what to smoke now.

You better smoke that darn Monte I sent you

smokin5 · 04-14-2009, 11:34 AM

"Divorce is expensive. Freedom is priceless."
- a sign I hang in my law office.

"I tried to drown my sorrows, but my (wife/husband) learned to swim."
- a sign I thought better not to hang in the office.

04-14-2009, 11:34 AM

Glad things are finished for your sake. I know it's been a tough, long road and I'm glad you made it through. While I've never been divorced, I know many that have. The thing that they always tell me is..take care of the kids (daughter in your case). When you have children, you have a life-long relationship with their mother (or father) whether you like it or not. It's a tough and confusing time for the kidos, and they need their parents more than ever (during a divorce and after). I know that has been the hardest part for you throughout this. You're a stand-up guy and a great parent and in the end that's all that matters.
Congrats on the "gettin' out when the gettin' was good", Dan. Wish I could smoke a celebratory smoke with you.

04-14-2009, 11:55 AM

Been through a divorce once myself. Thankfully no kids with her. I understand the sentiment that Dan has in all of this. The time that it takes to go through everything is not fun. And even when you start out trying to keep it "clean", it will go bad. At least mine did. yes, having a child connects you to the person "forever". You don't have to like your former partner, but I would say that you should at least attempt to be civil to them in front of the kids. Make your arguments private and not in front of the kids. It will only make them feel like they have to choose.

That being said, congrats on finally getting it over with, Dan. Celebrate tonight and move on.

04-14-2009, 01:17 PM

Thanks for the support everyone.

My daughter is 1.5 yrs old. I'm planning on keeping things social between her mother and I, buy her mothers day presents she can give her etc... never talk bad about the ex in front of her, and at all if I can help it. Mostly I'm just so happy I don't have to spend my life with the ex... sooo happy

Whee · 04-14-2009, 01:21 PM

Been there, done that twice.

Bachelor life suits me fine.

Ashcan Bill · 04-14-2009, 01:28 PM

If I hadn't divorced wife number 1, I never would have met and married wife number 2.

Two of the smarter things I've done.

Hang in there, you're past the tough part. It gets a lot better from here on out.

Skywalker · 04-14-2009, 02:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ashcan Bill

If I hadn't divorced wife number 1, I never would have met and married wife number 2.

Two of the smarter things I've done.

Hang in there, you're past the tough part. It gets a lot better from here on out.

Celebrate Dan!!!

04-14-2009, 05:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ashcan Bill

If I hadn't divorced wife number 1, I never would have met and married wife number 2.

Two of the smarter things I've done.

Hang in there, you're past the tough part. It gets a lot better from here on out.

That sums it up for me too !

Other than the fact had I just ran the x over with a car I would have been out of jail by now and never had to deal with her again.....

Just kidding ..... Sort of

Chas

14holestogie · 04-14-2009, 01:29 PM

Still married to the same woman, but have lived through it as a child and can echo what the others are saying. Keep the connection with the kids and keep the turmoil out of their sight. It allows you to share in those special moments still to come in your child's life that you won't want to miss.

Best of luck to you, Dan as you begin the next part of your life.

WildBlueSooner · 04-14-2009, 05:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hardcz

Thanks for the support everyone.

My daughter is 1.5 yrs old. I'm planning on keeping things social between her mother and I, buy her mothers day presents she can give her etc... never talk bad about the ex in front of her, and at all if I can help it. Mostly I'm just so happy I don't have to spend my life with the ex... sooo happy

That sounds like the best way to deal with it...now keep on celebrating

cle_smoker · 04-14-2009, 02:03 PM

Divorced once, 10 years ago this year. Best thing that ever happened to me. Mine was from the high school sweetheart and it only lasted about 2.5 years. No kids, no fault divorce. It was rough at the time, but I went through it with friends that I'll never forget.

Good luck to your future.

04-14-2009, 11:07 AM	#1
Hardcz Guest Posts: n/a	Ever get a divorce? Well I just did. And I must say, after going through everything. Yea it sucks... though worth every penny. If you make a mistake or whatever... better to get going why the going's good! WOOOT!!!! Drinkin and smoking at Fuse tonight for anyone who's showing up... it's in Rochester MI... Just gotta figure out what to smoke now.

04-14-2009, 11:10 AM	#2
leasingthisspace Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Ever get a divorce? Wish I could be there to celebrate with you man, smoke a great one for me Dan. Congrats with the big D.

04-14-2009, 11:12 AM	#3
ahc4353 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Ever get a divorce? Best wishes on your life going forward Dan.

04-14-2009, 11:18 AM	#4
MedicCook Mila smoked my cigar Join Date: Jan 2009 First Name: Ryan Location: Schaghticoke, NY Posts: 10,946 Trading: (7)	Re: Ever get a divorce? Good luck from here on out. I am in the process also.

04-14-2009, 11:21 AM	#5
stitch Saddle Maker And Cowboy Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: The Diamond K Ranch Posts: 720 Trading: (34)	Re: Ever get a divorce? I've done it twice over the years, Wifey and I have an agreement that she will shoot me rather than go through another. __________________ Cowboy Wisdom: Ifin' ya get to thinkin yourself a might bit important, Try tellin someone else's dog what to do.

04-14-2009, 12:06 PM	#7
kaisersozei The Homebrew Hammer Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Gerard Location: Midlothian, VA Posts: 3,183 Trading: (40)	Re: Ever get a divorce? I'm glad that this painful period is starting to get behind you, Dan. My separation & divorce about 12 years ago marked some of the darkest days of my life. Not easy with children (mine were 8 & 3 at the time,) but my ex- & I struggled through our differences and life with the kids steadily improved. Found myself remarried a few years later and now, 7 years in to my second & last wife, life is great and my relationship with my children is better than ever. I can empathize with the struggles you've gone through and wish for you a bright beginning and all the best. Would love to herf with you in celebration tonight, but I'll light one in your honor down here instead. Take care, brother! Gerard __________________

04-14-2009, 12:15 PM	#8
DPD6030 Shepard of the sheeple Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Andrew Location: The Mitten Posts: 7,166 Trading: (151)	Re: Ever get a divorce? Dan, I know you talked with me somewhat on the issues and you know I went through some of the same. I know how you feel about things and your ex. Like many have echo'd here you may not like your ex and your ex may not like you but be civil in front of your daughter. It has been so so much better with my ex and I as we are civil with one another and can get along for our son's sake. It will get better especially when you both move on in your lives and not being part of the life that you "had" together. Smoke a great stick tonight.

04-14-2009, 11:34 AM	#10
smokin5 Have My Own Room Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: On the Mountaintop - AZ Posts: 2,002 Trading: (69)	Re: Ever get a divorce? "Divorce is expensive. Freedom is priceless." - a sign I hang in my law office. "I tried to drown my sorrows, but my (wife/husband) learned to swim." - a sign I thought better not to hang in the office. __________________ Pobody's Nerfect.

04-14-2009, 11:34 AM	#11
Waynegro1 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Ever get a divorce? Glad things are finished for your sake. I know it's been a tough, long road and I'm glad you made it through. While I've never been divorced, I know many that have. The thing that they always tell me is..take care of the kids (daughter in your case). When you have children, you have a life-long relationship with their mother (or father) whether you like it or not. It's a tough and confusing time for the kidos, and they need their parents more than ever (during a divorce and after). I know that has been the hardest part for you throughout this. You're a stand-up guy and a great parent and in the end that's all that matters. Congrats on the "gettin' out when the gettin' was good", Dan. Wish I could smoke a celebratory smoke with you.

04-14-2009, 11:55 AM	#12
Wanger Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Ever get a divorce? Been through a divorce once myself. Thankfully no kids with her. I understand the sentiment that Dan has in all of this. The time that it takes to go through everything is not fun. And even when you start out trying to keep it "clean", it will go bad. At least mine did. yes, having a child connects you to the person "forever". You don't have to like your former partner, but I would say that you should at least attempt to be civil to them in front of the kids. Make your arguments private and not in front of the kids. It will only make them feel like they have to choose. That being said, congrats on finally getting it over with, Dan. Celebrate tonight and move on.

04-14-2009, 01:17 PM	#13
Hardcz Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Ever get a divorce? Thanks for the support everyone. My daughter is 1.5 yrs old. I'm planning on keeping things social between her mother and I, buy her mothers day presents she can give her etc... never talk bad about the ex in front of her, and at all if I can help it. Mostly I'm just so happy I don't have to spend my life with the ex... sooo happy

04-14-2009, 01:21 PM	#14
Whee formerly illinoishoosier Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Sean Location: Bishopville, SC Posts: 3,591 Trading: (17)	Re: Ever get a divorce? Been there, done that twice. Bachelor life suits me fine. __________________ "Maybe I'm wrong, when they tell me they're right…..naaaaahhhhhh, I'm an asshooooooleeee"--Denis Leary

04-14-2009, 01:28 PM	#15
Ashcan Bill Ol' Dude Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Bill Location: Henderson, NV Posts: 1,901 Trading: (6)	Re: Ever get a divorce? If I hadn't divorced wife number 1, I never would have met and married wife number 2. Two of the smarter things I've done. Hang in there, you're past the tough part. It gets a lot better from here on out.

04-14-2009, 01:29 PM	#18
14holestogie Serial banter killer Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Tim Location: Clintonville, WI Posts: 4,341 Trading: (52)	Re: Ever get a divorce? Still married to the same woman, but have lived through it as a child and can echo what the others are saying. Keep the connection with the kids and keep the turmoil out of their sight. It allows you to share in those special moments still to come in your child's life that you won't want to miss. Best of luck to you, Dan as you begin the next part of your life. __________________ *I loves me a Parti*

04-14-2009, 02:03 PM	#20
cle_smoker Adjusting to the Life Join Date: Feb 2009 First Name: Robert Location: Cleveland, OH Posts: 403 Trading: (1)	Re: Ever get a divorce? Divorced once, 10 years ago this year. Best thing that ever happened to me. Mine was from the high school sweetheart and it only lasted about 2.5 years. No kids, no fault divorce. It was rough at the time, but I went through it with friends that I'll never forget. Good luck to your future.