Crushed.

Wolfgang · 07-01-2010, 09:19 PM

I know quite a few members her have gone through a divorce or breakup at some time in their dating careers.
Which brings me to my dilema. After 3 years my Girlfriend and I have broken up. I dont know if its for good or anything like that. I know I am young (almost 22) but the heavy heart and feeling of extreme loss is real all the same. What are your experiences with getting past someone that was such an integral part of your life for so long?

Any insight is greatly appreciated. (but dont be a D!ck)

Samsquanch · 07-01-2010, 09:24 PM

Sorry brother, been there. The only thing that helped is time. There were times when it seemed like I'd never get over her but I did and I found the woman who put all the rest to shame. Oh and a little whiskey helped as well

md4958 · 07-01-2010, 09:26 PM

As one chapter of your life ends, another begins. Youre devastated now, but in a couple years you'll be wanting to send her a fruit basket for doing you the favor.

Keep your chin up, everything happens for a reason.

BlackDog · 07-01-2010, 09:33 PM

I have no words of wisdom, but I do hope that this turns out to be a blessing for you in the future.

G G · 07-01-2010, 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by BlackDog

I have no words of wisdom, but I do hope that this turns out to be a blessing for you in the future.

Same here.

Wolfgang · 07-01-2010, 09:41 PM

So far I like the whiskey idea best.

Im moving away too so that will help too.

Chingas · 07-01-2010, 09:50 PM

Listen brother. Number one, don't dwell. It's dangerous. Keep your head up and always look on the bright side of things. If you can believe that everything happens for a reason then your good to go and ahead of the game.

I'm sure this isn't your first girlfriend. Maybe first of three years, maybe she did things for you the previous wouldn't but the fact remains if the last relationship didn't end then this one would not have started.

Spend your time doing things you like. 22? Cigars, video games, music, fireworks, friends, family, bowling. Whatever.

Take down her picture man, looking at it does nothing for you. Close the book, throw it on the shelf and open yourself a new one. An interesting one. Sometimes, change is good!

Feel better brother. If you need anything, let me know.

07-01-2010, 10:16 PM

Life is too short. Don't get too upset. While one door may close, one always opens

Wolfgang · 07-01-2010, 10:16 PM

I hear you. Thanks for the tip. Having the support of an entire family here just made things a little easier to take.

Whee · 07-01-2010, 10:58 PM

This place. Seriously. Couldn't have slogged through it without these knuckle heads.

Biggest mistake for me was becoming a hermit. Herfs got me out of the house.
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awsmith4 · 07-01-2010, 11:02 PM

Sorry to hear that Mark, here's to quick healing and what lies ahead. I'm here (as I would imagine many others are) if you need and ear brother.

Lear31MX · 07-01-2010, 11:10 PM

Sorry to hear the bad news. IMO good freinds and time will make it hurt less and less.

Wolfgang · 07-01-2010, 11:00 PM

I am moving to Tampa so Ill be able to hang out with all the guys up there and a school with atleast 20,000 students should pep me up.

SmokeyJoe · 07-02-2010, 12:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Wolfgang

I am moving to Tampa so Ill be able to hang out with all the guys up there and a school with atleast 20,000 students should pep me up.

Go hang out with TripleF... Scott will fix you right up!

Maybe he has a daughter...

Wolfgang · 07-02-2010, 12:21 AM

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Originally Posted by SmokeyJoe

Maybe he has a daughter...

He does but I highly doubt hed let a wild man like me meet her lol

borndead1 · 07-02-2010, 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Wolfgang

I am moving to Tampa so Ill be able to hang out with all the guys up there and a school with atleast 20,000 students should pep me up.

They make some good cigars in Tampa.

My only advice is this: if you have any kind of daily routine, break it as much as you can for a while. I know it sounds crazy, but it will help.

Wolfgang · 07-01-2010, 11:10 PM

Thanks Al I may take you up on that.

Time takes too long.

SmokeyJoe · 07-01-2010, 11:24 PM

Last time I went through this was college... when dinosaurs ruled the earth.

Girl I had asked to marry me - dumped me... after I drove 14 hours home to see her... had just given her an expensive gift... on Christmas Eve. Man that sucked!

I moped for three days... tried to win her back... wrote her a card and left it on her car. No response.

I was ticked... decided to ask out a girl I had known for years that liked me. We saw each other every day until I went back to school.

Started dating another girl when I got back to school... and I have been married to her for over 26 years.

I am so glad that the relationship with the first girl ended when it did - or the timing would not have been right otherwise. Hurt at the time, but not for too long.

If your old girlfriend wants to spend her life with you, she will figure it out. But if she really isn't sure... then you are better off to find out now. Hurts now - but would hurt even more later if you had gotten even deeper involved.

Praying for you, Mark. You have much to look forward to!

s0leful0ne · 07-02-2010, 12:17 AM

Dang Mark sorry to hear.

Herfing with us will probably help

Wolfgang · 07-02-2010, 12:27 AM

I definitely need to occupy myself to keep from thinking of her.

07-01-2010, 09:19 PM	#1
Wolfgang Back from the dead Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Tampa, Fl Posts: 2,541 Trading: (14)	Crushed. I know quite a few members her have gone through a divorce or breakup at some time in their dating careers. Which brings me to my dilema. After 3 years my Girlfriend and I have broken up. I dont know if its for good or anything like that. I know I am young (almost 22) but the heavy heart and feeling of extreme loss is real all the same. What are your experiences with getting past someone that was such an integral part of your life for so long? Any insight is greatly appreciated. (but dont be a D!ck) __________________ You probably wont remember that test you failed, but you'll never forget the girl you were with the night before, when you decided not to study.

07-01-2010, 09:24 PM	#2
Samsquanch Feeling at Home Join Date: Jun 2010 First Name: Andrew Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 564 Trading: (21)	Re: Crushed. Sorry brother, been there. The only thing that helped is time. There were times when it seemed like I'd never get over her but I did and I found the woman who put all the rest to shame. Oh and a little whiskey helped as well __________________ ...I'm not saying I agree with it, it's just that bird law in this country, it's not governed by reason.

07-01-2010, 09:26 PM	#3
md4958 Captain Cannoli Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Moe Location: Suffield, CT Posts: 5,712 Trading: (62)	Re: Crushed. As one chapter of your life ends, another begins. Youre devastated now, but in a couple years you'll be wanting to send her a fruit basket for doing you the favor. Keep your chin up, everything happens for a reason. __________________ "One fart can foul the air for everyone" - Esteemed philosopher "If avoiding the nasty $hit is being a snob, them I am guilty as charged."- Same esteemed philosopher.

07-01-2010, 09:33 PM	#4
BlackDog Gonna make you groove... Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Warren Location: Minneapolis, MN Posts: 2,468 Trading: (19)	Re: Crushed. I have no words of wisdom, but I do hope that this turns out to be a blessing for you in the future. __________________ "We live in the good of this."

07-01-2010, 09:41 PM	#6
Wolfgang Back from the dead Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Tampa, Fl Posts: 2,541 Trading: (14)	Re: Crushed. So far I like the whiskey idea best. Im moving away too so that will help too. __________________ You probably wont remember that test you failed, but you'll never forget the girl you were with the night before, when you decided not to study.

07-01-2010, 09:50 PM	#7
Chingas Death Is Waiting Join Date: Jun 2010 First Name: Chingas Location: Slayerville, Jersey Posts: 5,295 Trading: (35)	Re: Crushed. Listen brother. Number one, don't dwell. It's dangerous. Keep your head up and always look on the bright side of things. If you can believe that everything happens for a reason then your good to go and ahead of the game. I'm sure this isn't your first girlfriend. Maybe first of three years, maybe she did things for you the previous wouldn't but the fact remains if the last relationship didn't end then this one would not have started. Spend your time doing things you like. 22? Cigars, video games, music, fireworks, friends, family, bowling. Whatever. Take down her picture man, looking at it does nothing for you. Close the book, throw it on the shelf and open yourself a new one. An interesting one. Sometimes, change is good! Feel better brother. If you need anything, let me know. __________________ ---Chingas--- ---Team Death Bomb Squad: Captain--- Last edited by Chingas; 07-01-2010 at 09:51 PM. Reason: Spelling

07-01-2010, 10:16 PM	#8
ChicagoWhiteSox Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Crushed. Life is too short. Don't get too upset. While one door may close, one always opens

07-01-2010, 10:16 PM	#9
Wolfgang Back from the dead Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Tampa, Fl Posts: 2,541 Trading: (14)	Re: Crushed. I hear you. Thanks for the tip. Having the support of an entire family here just made things a little easier to take. __________________ You probably wont remember that test you failed, but you'll never forget the girl you were with the night before, when you decided not to study.

07-01-2010, 10:58 PM	#10
Whee formerly illinoishoosier Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Sean Location: Bishopville, SC Posts: 3,591 Trading: (17)	Re: Crushed. This place. Seriously. Couldn't have slogged through it without these knuckle heads. Biggest mistake for me was becoming a hermit. Herfs got me out of the house. Posted via Mobile Device

07-01-2010, 11:02 PM	#11
awsmith4 Simple Pleasures - 2oL Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Albert Location: Marietta, Georgia Posts: 4,602 Trading: (111)	Re: Crushed. Sorry to hear that Mark, here's to quick healing and what lies ahead. I'm here (as I would imagine many others are) if you need and ear brother. __________________ Its THIS easy to support our troops

07-01-2010, 11:10 PM	#12
Lear31MX Herf Crew of 2 Join Date: May 2010 First Name: Anthony Location: Pacific Northwest L.C.D.H. Posts: 451 Trading: (8)	Re: Crushed. Sorry to hear the bad news. IMO good freinds and time will make it hurt less and less. __________________ Being still and doing nothing are two very different things.

07-01-2010, 11:00 PM	#13
Wolfgang Back from the dead Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Tampa, Fl Posts: 2,541 Trading: (14)	Re: Crushed. I am moving to Tampa so Ill be able to hang out with all the guys up there and a school with atleast 20,000 students should pep me up. __________________ You probably wont remember that test you failed, but you'll never forget the girl you were with the night before, when you decided not to study.

07-01-2010, 11:10 PM	#17
Wolfgang Back from the dead Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Tampa, Fl Posts: 2,541 Trading: (14)	Re: Crushed. Thanks Al I may take you up on that. Time takes too long. __________________ You probably wont remember that test you failed, but you'll never forget the girl you were with the night before, when you decided not to study.

07-01-2010, 11:24 PM	#18
SmokeyJoe Chief Wannastogie Lounge Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Joe Location: Raleigh, NC Posts: 3,160 Trading: (28)	Re: Crushed. Last time I went through this was college... when dinosaurs ruled the earth. Girl I had asked to marry me - dumped me... after I drove 14 hours home to see her... had just given her an expensive gift... on Christmas Eve. Man that sucked! I moped for three days... tried to win her back... wrote her a card and left it on her car. No response. I was ticked... decided to ask out a girl I had known for years that liked me. We saw each other every day until I went back to school. Started dating another girl when I got back to school... and I have been married to her for over 26 years. I am so glad that the relationship with the first girl ended when it did - or the timing would not have been right otherwise. Hurt at the time, but not for too long. If your old girlfriend wants to spend her life with you, she will figure it out. But if she really isn't sure... then you are better off to find out now. Hurts now - but would hurt even more later if you had gotten even deeper involved. Praying for you, Mark. You have much to look forward to! __________________ "I intend to smoke a good cigar to the glory of God..." ~ Charles H. Spurgeon, British Baptist preacher

07-02-2010, 12:17 AM	#19
s0leful0ne Its Huge. Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 477 Trading: (22)	Re: Crushed. Dang Mark sorry to hear. Herfing with us will probably help __________________ What's that smell?...Swamp Ash

07-02-2010, 12:27 AM	#20
Wolfgang Back from the dead Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Tampa, Fl Posts: 2,541 Trading: (14)	Re: Crushed. I definitely need to occupy myself to keep from thinking of her. __________________ You probably wont remember that test you failed, but you'll never forget the girl you were with the night before, when you decided not to study.