Best Man Speeches

yachties23 · 09-06-2010, 12:39 PM

Anybody ever give one? Any advice?

T.G · 09-06-2010, 12:45 PM

I'd recommend not starting the speech out by telling a story about the groom jello wrestling with two midget strippers.

Best to leave that for the end of the speech. Right after the explanation of what that tattoo really means.

kelmac07 · 09-06-2010, 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by T.G

I'd recommend not starting the speech out by telling a story about the groom jello wrestling with two midget strippers.

Best to leave that for the end of the speech. Right after the explanation of what that tattoo really means.

I agree with short, sweet, and to the point...nice little inuendos about how the couple is made for each other and how they will spend a life together in harmony. Good luck!!

The Poet · 09-06-2010, 12:48 PM

Tell the kind of stories you'd like to hear about yourself in that situation, and avoid those you wouldn't. Oh, and congratulate the groom, and wish the bride good luck.

Yeah, I know it should really be the other way around, but that's the "proper" etiquette.

mosesbotbol · 09-06-2010, 01:09 PM

Whatever you say, the biggest tip there is:

Do not start out a speech say "I don't do this often... Not good at giving speeches..."

The audience has no idea if you are virgin at speaches or is a seasoned speaker until you just said I suck and time to get drink if you don't have one.

Other important tips:

Limit the "I's" like like "I think". Who else is thinking if it is not you? Limit the "um's" and repeititious words one uses when at a loss for words.

Keep the stories polite for the whole of the audience. Cocaine binges and three-somes stories may be a hoot when talking among the guys, but the parents and relatives may not think so.

markem · 09-06-2010, 01:18 PM

Short, sweet, forgettable. They aren't there for your speech. Target the older women in the audience. If they think it was sweet then you did good.

Some of the best remarks that I have heard in such speeches are along the lines of, "Who would have thought when you were a mere babe in Aunt Martha's arms that you would meet such a wonderful and loving person as your new wife". Simple reference to the extended family coupled with compliments on doing so well.

Mind you, if there is a well known event, an oblique reference can be heartwarming in the appropriately sappy way. "All of us, of course, hope that your children have the good sense not to make smores with a welder's torch".

DocLogic77 · 09-06-2010, 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by markem

Short, sweet, forgettable. They aren't there for your speech. Target the older women in the audience. If they think it was sweet then you did good.

Some of the best remarks that I have heard in such speeches are along the lines of, "Who would have thought when you were a mere babe in Aunt Martha's arms that you would meet such a wonderful and loving person as your new wife". Simple reference to the extended family coupled with compliments on doing so well.

Mind you, if there is a well known event, an oblique reference can be heartwarming in the appropriately sappy way. "All of us, of course, hope that your children have the good sense not to make smores with a welder's torch".

This part

"Who would have thought when you were a mere babe in Aunt Martha's arms that you would meet such a wonderful and loving person as your new wife".

I would probably leave that out. It makes Aunt Martha sound like a byotch.

I agree with short and sweet. Write it out and practice. Give the speech in front of a mirror. Give it to others and ask for input. Unless you are truly a funny person jokes do not always go over well. Comedy isn't my strength and I would probably stay away from jokes. I basically would want a speech that people DONT think about for the next 20 years.

darkleeroy · 09-06-2010, 01:28 PM

I'v given and received best man speeches. Here's what I learned:

Congratulate the bride and groom. It doesn't matter if you've got what equates to the Gettysburg Address of wedding speeches, if you forget to mention the groom and especially the bride, you're going to look like a tool.

Prepare something, you're going to give a speech in what costed thousands of dollars. And the guy who considers you his best friend asked you to give a speech to her and his behalf, don't ruin it.

Samsquanch · 09-06-2010, 02:14 PM

Keep it short, make them laugh and then make them cry.

AD720 · 09-06-2010, 02:34 PM

Echoing some of the above.

- keep it short
- keep it sweet
- keep it about them and their relationship, not your escapades with the groom
- thank everyone for coming on the bride and groom's behalf (they may not have the chance to make that sort of announcement themselves and it was very appreciated when my best man did)
- thank the bride and/or groom's parents on all the guest's behalf

Good luck!

ade06 · 09-24-2010, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by AD720

Echoing some of the above.

- keep it short
- keep it sweet
- keep it about them and their relationship, not your escapades with the groom
- thank everyone for coming on the bride and groom's behalf (they may not have the chance to make that sort of announcement themselves and it was very appreciated when my best man did)
- thank the bride and/or groom's parents on all the guest's behalf

Good luck!

Make sure that they paid before thanking them for paying for the wedding. My best man thanked my father-in-law for paying for the weddding and the wonderfull receiption... He didn't pay for anything, in fact 4 years later, we're still paying for our wedding.

N2Advnture · 09-24-2010, 09:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Samsquanch

Keep it short, make them laugh and then make them cry.

Exactly...I made a Navy Seal cry at my brothers wedding (my first speech ever).

09-06-2010, 02:42 PM

Lots of great advice from the guys above.

Short and from the heart. If your eyes get misty, you done good.

SNKBYT · 09-06-2010, 02:49 PM

and don't forget to smile

Vigiles · 09-06-2010, 03:02 PM

I gave my first best man speech over the summer.

It was about 2 mintues long and the bride cried during it. (which is a good thing in this situation!)

Always, always, mention how gorgeous/beautiful the bride looks. Always.

i wrote out my whole speech, but had most of it memorized the night of the reception, which helped a lot.

I had a fair amount of "interruptions" during my speech, be prepared for that, just in case. (they were good interruptions, so it was ok)

I was ALMOST too drunk, which isn't a good thing. I had planned on having maybe 2-3 drinks before the speech, just to loosen up a bit. Then on the 20 minute limo ride from the wedding to the reception, some of the wedding party started passing around multiple bottles of champagne, not good. Luckily in the end it didn't affect the speech, but it could have. So be careful if you drink before the speech.

Its always ok to poke fun at the groom, tread lightly on poking fun at the bride though.

If you aren't a good public speaker (I am not!) practice your speech, out loud, maybe in front of a mirror at first, then in front of some family and friends. Practice, practice, practice!

HAVE FUN with it! I was pretty nervous about the speech, but it ended up being a lot of fun!

If you have any questions please ask!

mosesbotbol · 09-06-2010, 03:22 PM

Like others have mentioned, make sure to write it out and practice it.

A queue card with bullet points works well and will allow you to work the audience as you'll see the next topic at a glance.

BigCat · 09-06-2010, 03:35 PM

Do not make reference to the grooms former flings, that he was a real player until he met the bride, etc. I've heard a lot of these and it never comes off well at all. Otherwise, I agree with the advise above. Short and sweet and light-hearted are best.

maverickdrinker · 09-06-2010, 05:21 PM

Thank the groom for the privledge and opportunity to speak
Congratulate the bride and complement her.
If you have a great story or two of the couple, share them.
Say that they were meant to be and cannot picture them without each other.

My closing line has always been

May the only pain you experience is champagne and strawberries together.

Works like a charm and brings the house down.

Good luck

Apoco · 09-06-2010, 05:42 PM

I think my best man speech was something like "I called this one far before they started dating..." and ended it on a heartfelt note.

Don't sweat it too much. It really doesn't have to be as serious and uptight as people make it out to be. I guess it depends on how formal the rehearsal dinner is, my speech was given in a BBQ joint.

Superbad · 09-06-2010, 07:48 PM

I just winged it! It went well, just let it flow....

09-06-2010, 12:39 PM	#1
yachties23 The Belly of the Beast Join Date: Aug 2009 First Name: Chris Location: New York City Posts: 568 Trading: (15)	Best Man Speeches Anybody ever give one? Any advice? __________________ Lover of the One and Only, New Castle Brown Ale

09-06-2010, 12:45 PM	#2
T.G Grrrrrr Join Date: Mar 2009 First Name: The Other Adam Posts: 15,557 Trading: (37)	Re: Best Man Speeches I'd recommend not starting the speech out by telling a story about the groom jello wrestling with two midget strippers. Best to leave that for the end of the speech. Right after the explanation of what that tattoo really means.

09-06-2010, 12:48 PM	#4
The Poet Il megglior fabbro Join Date: Jun 2009 First Name: Thomas Location: Hickory, NC Posts: 8,420 Trading: (2)	Re: Best Man Speeches Tell the kind of stories you'd like to hear about yourself in that situation, and avoid those you wouldn't. Oh, and congratulate the groom, and wish the bride good luck. Yeah, I know it should really be the other way around, but that's the "proper" etiquette.

09-06-2010, 01:09 PM	#5
mosesbotbol That's a Corgi Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Moses Location: Boston Posts: 6,171 Trading: (6)	Re: Best Man Speeches Whatever you say, the biggest tip there is: Do not start out a speech say "I don't do this often... Not good at giving speeches..." The audience has no idea if you are virgin at speaches or is a seasoned speaker until you just said I suck and time to get drink if you don't have one. Other important tips: Limit the "I's" like like "I think". Who else is thinking if it is not you? Limit the "um's" and repeititious words one uses when at a loss for words. Keep the stories polite for the whole of the audience. Cocaine binges and three-somes stories may be a hoot when talking among the guys, but the parents and relatives may not think so. __________________ Port Wine & Claret \| British Cars \| Welsh Corgi's

09-06-2010, 01:18 PM	#6
markem Bunion Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Mark Location: Second Star on the Right Posts: 22,622 Trading: (47)	Re: Best Man Speeches Short, sweet, forgettable. They aren't there for your speech. Target the older women in the audience. If they think it was sweet then you did good. Some of the best remarks that I have heard in such speeches are along the lines of, "Who would have thought when you were a mere babe in Aunt Martha's arms that you would meet such a wonderful and loving person as your new wife". Simple reference to the extended family coupled with compliments on doing so well. Mind you, if there is a well known event, an oblique reference can be heartwarming in the appropriately sappy way. "All of us, of course, hope that your children have the good sense not to make smores with a welder's torch". __________________ I refuse to belong to any organization that would have me as a member. ~ Groucho Marx

09-06-2010, 01:28 PM	#8
darkleeroy Adjusting to the Life Join Date: Jul 2010 First Name: Josh Location: Miami, FL Posts: 318 Trading: (0)	Re: Best Man Speeches I'v given and received best man speeches. Here's what I learned: Congratulate the bride and groom. It doesn't matter if you've got what equates to the Gettysburg Address of wedding speeches, if you forget to mention the groom and especially the bride, you're going to look like a tool. Prepare something, you're going to give a speech in what costed thousands of dollars. And the guy who considers you his best friend asked you to give a speech to her and his behalf, don't ruin it. __________________

09-06-2010, 02:14 PM	#9
Samsquanch Feeling at Home Join Date: Jun 2010 First Name: Andrew Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 564 Trading: (21)	Re: Best Man Speeches Keep it short, make them laugh and then make them cry. __________________ ...I'm not saying I agree with it, it's just that bird law in this country, it's not governed by reason.

09-06-2010, 02:34 PM	#10
AD720 I'm nuts for the place Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Andrew Location: The City of BOTL-erly Love Posts: 2,684 Trading: (73)	Re: Best Man Speeches Echoing some of the above. - keep it short - keep it sweet - keep it about them and their relationship, not your escapades with the groom - thank everyone for coming on the bride and groom's behalf (they may not have the chance to make that sort of announcement themselves and it was very appreciated when my best man did) - thank the bride and/or groom's parents on all the guest's behalf Good luck! __________________

09-06-2010, 02:42 PM	#13
ahc4353 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Best Man Speeches Lots of great advice from the guys above. Short and from the heart. If your eyes get misty, you done good.

09-06-2010, 02:49 PM	#14
SNKBYT PATRIOT and VETERAN Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Alex Location: SWEET HOME ALABAMA Posts: 3,289 Trading: (30)	Re: Best Man Speeches and don't forget to smile __________________ "IF YOU WANT TO TAKE MY FREEDOM, MAKE DAMN SURE THAT YOU'RE AS PASSSIONATE ABOUT TAKING IT AS I AM ABOUT KEEPING IT"

09-06-2010, 03:02 PM	#15
Vigiles Still Watching My Back Join Date: Dec 2009 First Name: Garrett Location: VA Posts: 183 Trading: (3)	Re: Best Man Speeches I gave my first best man speech over the summer. It was about 2 mintues long and the bride cried during it. (which is a good thing in this situation!) Always, always, mention how gorgeous/beautiful the bride looks. Always. i wrote out my whole speech, but had most of it memorized the night of the reception, which helped a lot. I had a fair amount of "interruptions" during my speech, be prepared for that, just in case. (they were good interruptions, so it was ok) I was ALMOST too drunk, which isn't a good thing. I had planned on having maybe 2-3 drinks before the speech, just to loosen up a bit. Then on the 20 minute limo ride from the wedding to the reception, some of the wedding party started passing around multiple bottles of champagne, not good. Luckily in the end it didn't affect the speech, but it could have. So be careful if you drink before the speech. Its always ok to poke fun at the groom, tread lightly on poking fun at the bride though. If you aren't a good public speaker (I am not!) practice your speech, out loud, maybe in front of a mirror at first, then in front of some family and friends. Practice, practice, practice! HAVE FUN with it! I was pretty nervous about the speech, but it ended up being a lot of fun! If you have any questions please ask!

09-06-2010, 03:22 PM	#16
mosesbotbol That's a Corgi Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Moses Location: Boston Posts: 6,171 Trading: (6)	Re: Best Man Speeches Like others have mentioned, make sure to write it out and practice it. A queue card with bullet points works well and will allow you to work the audience as you'll see the next topic at a glance. __________________ Port Wine & Claret \| British Cars \| Welsh Corgi's

09-06-2010, 03:35 PM	#17
BigCat My back is now unwatched. Join Date: Apr 2009 First Name: Colin Location: Metro Detroit Posts: 723 Trading: (5)	Re: Best Man Speeches Do not make reference to the grooms former flings, that he was a real player until he met the bride, etc. I've heard a lot of these and it never comes off well at all. Otherwise, I agree with the advise above. Short and sweet and light-hearted are best. __________________ "Now, I don't approve of dissipation, and I don't indulge in it either; but I haven't a particle of confidence in a man who has no redeeming petty vices." Mark Twain

09-06-2010, 05:21 PM	#18
maverickdrinker I'm nuts for the place Join Date: Nov 2008 First Name: art Location: Toronto, Ontario Posts: 2,590 Trading: (15)	Re: Best Man Speeches Thank the groom for the privledge and opportunity to speak Congratulate the bride and complement her. If you have a great story or two of the couple, share them. Say that they were meant to be and cannot picture them without each other. My closing line has always been May the only pain you experience is champagne and strawberries together. Works like a charm and brings the house down. Good luck

09-06-2010, 05:42 PM	#19
Apoco Nerd with social skills Join Date: May 2010 First Name: Alex Location: Chattanooga, TN Posts: 1,286 Trading: (37)	Re: Best Man Speeches I think my best man speech was something like "I called this one far before they started dating..." and ended it on a heartfelt note. Don't sweat it too much. It really doesn't have to be as serious and uptight as people make it out to be. I guess it depends on how formal the rehearsal dinner is, my speech was given in a BBQ joint.

09-06-2010, 07:48 PM	#20
Superbad Have My Own Room Join Date: Apr 2010 First Name: Bobby Location: Panama City, FL Posts: 1,784 Trading: (53)	Re: Best Man Speeches I just winged it! It went well, just let it flow....