End of the world is coming soon!

Poronico · 01-10-2012, 09:57 PM

Me and my lovely girlfriend found out shortly after Christmas that we are expecting a new addition to the family! (Amazing Present by the way) OB says Due date of Sept 1st and I couldn't be happier.

This will be my first (girlfriends second) so I am completely terrified yet giddy with excitement at the same time. The world didn't know what to do with me alone... now it has to face my offspring! * Maniacal Laughter*

Any and all advice or a heads up from the fathers out there are welcome

I have assaulted the library for as many quality "expectant fathers" books as I could find and even with my extensive heath care knowledge I am still nervous as hell... lol

jluck · 01-10-2012, 10:00 PM

Diapers and formula cost more than cigars! really though...good luck, parent hood is great.

neoflex · 01-11-2012, 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by jluck

Diapers and formula cost more than cigars! really though...good luck, parent hood is great.

Fortunately we didn't have to deal with formula thing as my wife breastfed the whole time. It had two perks for me. A) We saved a ton of dough and B) Because she breastfed she was the one who got up in the middle of the night to feed the baby instead of me having to get up and do it so I highly encourage you to try and talk her into breastfeeding the baby. Not only do you have the two perks I mentioned above but the babies get a lot of nutrients that they normally don't get with formula. Our daughter was always a lot healthier and got less colds compared to our friends with other kids her age that were on formula. Win, Win all around IMHO.
Congratulations! Being a dad is the greatest thing in the world. My daughter just turned a year at the end of November and nothing beats seeing her face light up when I walk in the room or if she knows I am within ear shot and I hear her yell "Dad!"

markem · 01-11-2012, 10:11 AM

Congrats, Jesse! Get that kid hooked on habanero peppers early!

pektel · 04-13-2012, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by neoflex

Not only do you have the two perks I mentioned above but the babies get a lot of nutrients that they normally don't get with formula. Our daughter was always a lot healthier and got less colds compared to our friends with other kids her age that were on formula. Win, Win all around IMHO.

FWIW, my four year old has had a cold a few times since birth. Maybe one ear infection. And was formula fed. And, he's one of the brightest kids in his class. My sister's child (who is solely breastfed) constantly is battling with sicknesses and ear infections. I would venture so far to say that there are other environmental factors that contribute to the overall health of teh child than simply "formula vs breastmilk." Can't force the mother to breastfeed. I do hear you on the cost of formula though.

And those late nights when the kid needs consoling? Some of my best memories are rocking the baby in the middle of the night, being able to be the calming part of the whole thing, and the two of us just looking at each other, trying to communicate love through facial expression.

OP- Congrats! There is nothing like being a parent. A trick I've used is to EXPECT no sleep. EXPECT getting frustrated. If you expect trying times, they are very easy to deal with when they do happen. If I went into it thinking that I expected a full night's sleep, it would've drove me crazy.

Poronico · 01-10-2012, 10:04 PM

We made a run through Babies R Us the other day... Baby registry and 5 hours later I was ready to beat someone into submission with a Mobile. Ran into a few guys I used to work with before I got put on disability so it was nice to catch up but yea I saw diapers were insane!

Remo · 01-10-2012, 10:05 PM

Congrats to you and her, life as you know it is over but a better life is just starting

icehog3 · 01-10-2012, 10:41 PM

Congrats to you both, Jesse!

I got no advice, on account a' somethin' went wrong with my semen.

Sorry, bad "Raising Arizona" quote....

MedicCook · 01-10-2012, 10:44 PM

Congrats. Positive thoughts sent.

CigarNut · 01-10-2012, 10:46 PM

Congratulations! Now the fun begins

Poronico · 01-11-2012, 12:44 AM

No worries Tom, being the dork that I am I actually got that reference haha. How have you been brotha? Miss BSing with you and the other boys in the Banter thread. Its been a minute since I have been on here. Got started working towards joining Seattle PD and it all went to hell when I got crushed at work.

icehog3 · 01-11-2012, 09:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Poronico

No worries Tom, being the dork that I am I actually got that reference haha. How have you been brotha? Miss BSing with you and the other boys in the Banter thread. Its been a minute since I have been on here. Got started working towards joining Seattle PD and it all went to hell when I got crushed at work.

Things are good on this end, Jesse, no complaints worth making. Happy to hear that some good things are going on with you now....and hope we can catch up when life gives you a moment here and there.

irratebass · 01-11-2012, 04:36 AM

Congrats man, I can't offer any advice except learn patience.

kelmac07 · 01-11-2012, 06:23 AM

Congrats!! Best advice I can offer you is get your sleep now, while you still can.

01-11-2012, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by kelmac07

Congrats!! Best advice I can offer you is get your sleep now, while you still can.

Truest words there are.

Congrats to the both of you, it's a long and sometimes rough road so make sure you take the time to enjoy it along the way.

Ogre · 01-11-2012, 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by kelmac07

Congrats!! Best advice I can offer you is get your sleep now, while you still can.

Best advise you can get. Congrats brother.

hotreds · 01-11-2012, 09:16 AM

ade06 · 01-11-2012, 09:23 AM

Congrats Jesse. My advise is to get well rested now, because you can say goodbye to a full nights rest for several months once the little one arrives. Oh and open a 529 saving plan asap.

RevSmoke · 01-11-2012, 09:40 AM

My advice? Get married now.

Gonna have a baby and be a family? Then be a family.

As for the rest? Don't worry about it. Life is going to change, expect it. How? There is no cookie cutter mold. Every kid is different, every husband and wife are different, every financial situation is different, every house families live in is different, etc... (I think you get the idea)

What happened in one family may not happen in another.

Love her... Love the child... Talk to one another, about everything - even the little things.

Here is one thing I can tell you. As the pregnancy goes along and the baby is born, you will be a lesser priority in the daily allocation of her time than you have been. It doesn't mean she doesn't care for you - it means that she has a greater priority, the baby. Don't be a second baby whining and crying in the background. Love her, support her, help her.

Oh yeah, marry her now.

Peace of the Lord be with you.

CasaDooley · 01-11-2012, 12:10 PM

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Originally Posted by RevSmoke

My advice? Get married now.

Gonna have a baby and be a family? Then be a family.

Love her... Love the child... Talk to one another, about everything - even the little things.

Oh yeah, marry her now.

Peace of the Lord be with you.

Congrats Jesse! What the Rev said, and patience. Lots of patience and understanding. I have 2 daughters and 2 grandsons and without patience and understanding I don't know if I could have made it. Hell, I'm 54 and am still working on patience and understanding.

01-10-2012, 09:57 PM	#1
Poronico Teh Forever Noob Join Date: Aug 2009 First Name: Jesse Location: Bonney Lake, Wa Posts: 868 Trading: (5)	End of the world is coming soon! Me and my lovely girlfriend found out shortly after Christmas that we are expecting a new addition to the family! (Amazing Present by the way) OB says Due date of Sept 1st and I couldn't be happier. This will be my first (girlfriends second) so I am completely terrified yet giddy with excitement at the same time. The world didn't know what to do with me alone... now it has to face my offspring! * Maniacal Laughter* Any and all advice or a heads up from the fathers out there are welcome I have assaulted the library for as many quality "expectant fathers" books as I could find and even with my extensive heath care knowledge I am still nervous as hell... lol __________________ Fellows, leave the tight pants to the ladies. If I can count the coins in your pocket, you better use them to call the tailor. "TMIMITW"

01-10-2012, 10:00 PM	#2
jluck Way out there Join Date: Jan 2012 First Name: Jared Location: Oregon Posts: 1,289 Trading: (12)	Re: End of the world is coming soon! Diapers and formula cost more than cigars! really though...good luck, parent hood is great.

01-11-2012, 10:11 AM	#4
markem Bunion Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Mark Location: Second Star on the Right Posts: 22,621 Trading: (47)	Re: End of the world is coming soon! Congrats, Jesse! Get that kid hooked on habanero peppers early! __________________ I refuse to belong to any organization that would have me as a member. ~ Groucho Marx

01-10-2012, 10:04 PM	#6
Poronico Teh Forever Noob Join Date: Aug 2009 First Name: Jesse Location: Bonney Lake, Wa Posts: 868 Trading: (5)	Re: End of the world is coming soon! We made a run through Babies R Us the other day... Baby registry and 5 hours later I was ready to beat someone into submission with a Mobile. Ran into a few guys I used to work with before I got put on disability so it was nice to catch up but yea I saw diapers were insane! __________________ Fellows, leave the tight pants to the ladies. If I can count the coins in your pocket, you better use them to call the tailor. "TMIMITW"

01-10-2012, 10:05 PM	#7
Remo C.I.A Join Date: Feb 2011 First Name: Mike Location: Palm Harbor, Florida Posts: 12,597 Trading: (122)	Re: End of the world is coming soon! Congrats to you and her, life as you know it is over but a better life is just starting __________________

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icehog3 Admiral Douchebag Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Tom Location: Clermont, Kentucky Posts: 71,284 Trading: (60)	Re: End of the world is coming soon! Congrats to you both, Jesse! I got no advice, on account a' somethin' went wrong with my semen. Sorry, bad "Raising Arizona" quote.... __________________ Thanks Dave, Julian, James, Kelly, Peter, Gerry, Dave, Mo, Frank, Týr and Mr. Mark!

01-10-2012, 10:44 PM	#9
MedicCook Mila smoked my cigar Join Date: Jan 2009 First Name: Ryan Location: Schaghticoke, NY Posts: 10,946 Trading: (7)	Re: End of the world is coming soon! Congrats. Positive thoughts sent. __________________ 27 World Series Championship's "If your wife doesn't like the aroma of your cigar, change your wife.", Zino Davidoff

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01-11-2012, 12:44 AM	#11
Poronico Teh Forever Noob Join Date: Aug 2009 First Name: Jesse Location: Bonney Lake, Wa Posts: 868 Trading: (5)	Re: End of the world is coming soon! No worries Tom, being the dork that I am I actually got that reference haha. How have you been brotha? Miss BSing with you and the other boys in the Banter thread. Its been a minute since I have been on here. Got started working towards joining Seattle PD and it all went to hell when I got crushed at work. __________________ Fellows, leave the tight pants to the ladies. If I can count the coins in your pocket, you better use them to call the tailor. "TMIMITW"

01-11-2012, 04:36 AM	#13
irratebass EMPEROR TOMPKINS Join Date: Aug 2011 First Name: Mickey Location: Mooresville, Indiana Posts: 8,313 Trading: (48)	Re: End of the world is coming soon! Congrats man, I can't offer any advice except learn patience. __________________

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kelmac07 Resident Maduro Whore!! Join Date: Apr 2009 First Name: Mac Location: Newport News, VA Posts: 27,322 Trading: (218)	Re: End of the world is coming soon! Congrats!! Best advice I can offer you is get your sleep now, while you still can. __________________ Dom in the MLB thread "I could probably get you to wear a Yankee hat for a Maduro!"

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hotreds Ephesians 2:8 Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: 5 miles past "Resume Speed" Posts: 11,662 Trading: (63)	Re: End of the world is coming soon! __________________ God loves you so much, that he made you read this, just to let you know.

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ade06 Have My Own Room Join Date: Jan 2009 First Name: Ade Location: Philadelphia Posts: 1,190 Trading: (24)	Re: End of the world is coming soon! Congrats Jesse. My advise is to get well rested now, because you can say goodbye to a full nights rest for several months once the little one arrives. Oh and open a 529 saving plan asap.

01-11-2012, 09:40 AM	#19
RevSmoke Ain't Never Gonna Leave Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Todd Location: Northcentral woods of Wisconsin Posts: 6,848 Trading: (51)	Re: End of the world is coming soon! My advice? Get married now. Gonna have a baby and be a family? Then be a family. As for the rest? Don't worry about it. Life is going to change, expect it. How? There is no cookie cutter mold. Every kid is different, every husband and wife are different, every financial situation is different, every house families live in is different, etc... (I think you get the idea) What happened in one family may not happen in another. Love her... Love the child... Talk to one another, about everything - even the little things. Here is one thing I can tell you. As the pregnancy goes along and the baby is born, you will be a lesser priority in the daily allocation of her time than you have been. It doesn't mean she doesn't care for you - it means that she has a greater priority, the baby. Don't be a second baby whining and crying in the background. Love her, support her, help her. Oh yeah, marry her now. Peace of the Lord be with you. __________________ Todd__ "Smoke what you like, and enjoy it!"