Need your help with future wifey

[HollywoodQue]

I have sled down the slippery slope with my new cigar hobby. My future wife hates the smell of the cigars I am currently smoking, "Bolivar and Montecristo". A friend of mine told me to try a Rocky Patel with a white wrapper cuz most women like the creamy, vanilla aroma.

Does anyone know the correct name of the RP cigar or any other cigars that has the vanilla and/or creamy aroma that make not be as strong to her.

Thanks...I love her, but I am not ready to put down my first love yet,,,a good cigar.....LOL

[replicant_argent]

Better start looking at domiciles where you can smoke away from her. Or, hopefully you can find something she will accept that you enjoy (and your tastes don't change much )... Good luck, bud.

My wife seems to complain more about the smoke from an NC compared to CCs, oddly enough.

[357]

As silly as it sounds, a lit candle will often help mask/destroy smoke. It doesn't work as well on cigars as it does on cigarettes due to the volume of smoke, but there are other options as well. Many of the ozone type air purifiers or similar make little if any noise and do a decent job of eliminating odors. Do you have a room inside you can smoke in, or the whole house, or?

[HollywoodQue]

Originally Posted by 357

As silly as it sounds, a lit candle will often help mask/destroy smoke. It doesn't work as well on cigars as it does on cigarettes due to the volume of smoke, but there are other options as well. Many of the ozone type air purifiers or similar make little if any noise and do a decent job of eliminating odors. Do you have a room inside you can smoke in, or the whole house, or?

357, I am mainly smoking outdoors, but you know how cold it gets in the "D" and she has a nose like a blood-hound. Damn, did I mention that she is a cop just like me and we don't even live together til marriage..

If she smells smoke when she comes by, she won't stay very long...
Opps....when she won't stay, a dog may stray

[md4958]

1. Dont smoke in the house- ever.
2. When you attend a herf, your clothes will reek. Take them off and throw them immediately into the washer. Also, take a shower before going to bed.
3. Get yourself some Smart-Mouth mouthwash, it works great.
4. Explain to her how a cigar relaxes you, and reduces your stress. If she cant understand the importance of this, then you may want to re-consider your choice in fiancée.

[HollywoodQue]

Originally Posted by md4958

1. Dont smoke in the house- ever.
2. When you attend a herf, your clothes will reek. Take them off and throw them immediately into the washer. Also, take a shower before going to bed.
3. Get yourself some Smart-Mouth mouthwash, it works great.
4. Explain to her how a cigar relaxes you, and reduces your stress. If she cant understand the importance of this, then you may want to re-consider your choice in fiancée.

I hear you Godfather, I hear you.

[Stevez]

Great advice here from my perspective as well. My wife has a nose like your future wife and it can be difficult. All of these recommendations are things I do and it works. The Smart-Mouth mouthwash I have found especially helpful. Good luck! Steve

Originally Posted by md4958

1. Dont smoke in the house- ever.
2. When you attend a herf, your clothes will reek. Take them off and throw them immediately into the washer. Also, take a shower before going to bed.
3. Get yourself some Smart-Mouth mouthwash, it works great.
4. Explain to her how a cigar relaxes you, and reduces your stress. If she cant understand the importance of this, then you may want to re-consider your choice in fiancée.

[kydsid]

that sucks, is there any annoying habit of hers you can barter with?
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Luckily my other half doesn't mind cigar smoke, actually my cigar hobby has intrigued her... she now smokes flavored cigars on occasion she absolutely loves the aroma when I smoke my pipe

[ninjavanish]

Originally Posted by HollywoodQue

I have sled down the slippery slope with my new cigar hobby. My future wife hates the smell of the cigars I am currently smoking, "Bolivar and Montecristo". A friend of mine told me to try a Rocky Patel with a white wrapper cuz most women like the creamy, vanilla aroma.

Does anyone know the correct name of the RP cigar or any other cigars that has the vanilla and/or creamy aroma that make not be as strong to her.

Thanks...I love her, but I am not ready to put down my first love yet,,,a good cigar.....LOL

Sounds like your friend is reccomending the RP Vintage 1999 Connecticut.

Your local B&M should be able to reccommend good Connecticut smokes for you. They are milder and tend to have a bit "sweeter" aroma. But really it still smells smokey. My guess is that is the real problem she has... that it smells like smoke period.

As I have recommended before... please go read a poem by Rudyard Kipling called "The Betrothed" Hopefully it will give you some perspective.

[quantim0]

I have a small ozone unit for my house that clears the smoke out really well.

Luckily my wife smokes cigars as well, so it's not a big issue, but it's nice not the have the house smell like smoke. I used to smoke on the porch, but I don't think that's going to be possible in Detriot right now, the joys of living in Florida I guess.

I would find a good local shop to smoke in during the winter months and then enjoy smoking outside during the summer.

[ade06]

Good luck to you in your endeavor to find a cigar that won't bother your soon to be wife… If you're smoking inside the house then go outside or find a local B&M/cigar friendly establishment (that's probably a reasonable request from a wife). If the problem is you smoking in general then my suggestion is to keep smoking what you like and not stop after you get married. She knew you enjoyed cigars while you dated, so it shouldn't change after getting married. If you stop after marriage, be prepared to stop doing a lot of other things that you enjoy. I say let her deal with your occasional cigar funk (of course change your clothes, brush your teeth, use mouthwash, shower, or do anything else within reason to accommodate her)

[forgop]

Maybe you may need to find a different future wifey. It won't get any easier down the road.

[HollywoodQue]

Originally Posted by forgop

Maybe you may need to find a different future wifey. It won't get any easier down the road.

Tried that 3 years ago Forgop, she was issued the same department gun that I was issued, but we've known each other since high school and been together for almost 7 years...time to make a honest woman out of her, but I will still keep your suggestion in mind

[357]

Originally Posted by HollywoodQue

Tried that 3 years ago Forgop, she was issued the same department gun that I was issued, but we've known each other since high school and been together for almost 7 years...time to make a honest woman out of her, but I will still keep your suggestion in mind

You know, everyone has a vice of some kind. For many women it's shopping. For guys, there are much worse vices than cigar smoking. Gambling, heavy drinking, drugs, women, are all much more destructive vices that ruin a man's life let alone his marraige. Cigar smoking is pretty tame by most standards and by and large it is not even considered addictive. Although many here will tell you collecting them is.

[Subvet642]

The smell of cigar and pipe smoke makes my wife, *ahem*, romantic. I was smoking a Sig II a couple weeks ago, and she asked for a couple of puffs; she loved it! She figures that she married a man, so she shouldn't be suprised when I act like one.

[CasaDooley]

Originally Posted by icehog3

When my wife complained about the smell of my cigar smoke, I would go smoke at my girlfriend's place.

Originally Posted by Subvet642

She figures that she married a man, so she shouldn't be surprised when I act like one.

Winners!

My wife likes a certain hot sauce she uses on a lot of her food. I don't like the smell of it. Who am I to tell her she can't use her hot sauce when I know she enjoys it and I sure as hell am not going to tell her to change her clothes, brush her teeth and take a shower after every time she uses it! Unless I've missed something in my last 32 years of marriage, we are Equal Partners and tend to overlook each others minor "flaws" as we focus on the bigger picture of our lives.

[icehog3]

When my wife complained about the smell of my cigar smoke, I would go smoke at my girlfriend's place.

[md4958]

Originally Posted by icehog3

When my wife complained about the smell of my cigar smoke, I would go smoke at my girlfriend's place.

[Bill86]

Originally Posted by icehog3

When my wife complained about the smell of my cigar smoke, I would go smoke at my girlfriend's place.

This is the best option.

Also usually I just say something like if you quit nagging/*****ing I'll quit whatever. Next time she nags me for it I just say well it seems we both have things we don't like about eachother and you wont quit yours either.
It is noted I'm not married and never will be.