Man, I knew I'd get some great insight here.
Great thing about it is although my wife is obviously crushed, she is backing me as far as rules and discipline go.
This girl had it rough as she arrived as a middle schooler from Brazil and was much more "developed" than the other girls and drew much attention from the boys. This caused her to be in several fights and she learned to be tough.
My older brother is a Sgt up in Jersey and spent a recent visit telling my stepdaughter all of my teen troubles which didn't help either coming from a cop who still teases me about some pretty crazy stuff.
My first reaction was to kick her out in 3 months when she is 18, but know this is the time she needs us the most.
I'll as her to use my Jose L Piedras for any further blunt rolling.
On a serious note, she is looking into the military and I personally would gain a whole lot of respect for her if she chose that route opposed to the one she is headed on.