[BradNC]

I went through this a little over a year ago. We worked out things without too much contention. We stay in contact but it was a hard thing to do - I went back and forth as far as what would be best after she filed on me and then wanted to work things out. For me, I'm not sure one ever feels which was was completely better. We didn't have any kids either so that made it not so bad. Some days I still wonder what was best, then I light up a cigar....and for a while it seems clear.