[shilala]

I'm on the fence, but it's only because I'm not you and I don't know where you're at in how you feel about your divorce.
Consider this...
Is it fair to foist damaged goods on someone you hope to love?

That kept me from getting involved with anyone for a solid year after my divorce, and my marriage had been over for 3 years before that.
About 5 years after my divorce, I'd worked on myself enough that I knew I could be married again and do it right. So I swore off sex and started dating. I spent a lot of time with a lot of women until I got married.
To me, that was the right way to go about it.

I see no reason why you can't see this girl out of work, as a friend.
But examine your intentions, and whether or not you can even deal with it.
Not many guys take the advice you got. But it's all good advice, and there's lots of personal experiences to back it up.
It's not about what us guys can handle, it's about what you can handle and your motivation. Just be honest with yourself and you'll be okay.