Cigars & our better half...
 

I was just thinking that through all the years I've spent on the Big Ash porch with my cigars Ive had the blessing of my hobby from my wife. While I can't smoke in the house, she has never discouraged me from smoking my gars. In fact, there have been plenty of times she's suggested that I go and spend time either on the porch or at my B&M. She's never made to big a fuss at the money I spend on them. I kinda think she enjoys the idea of a man and his cigar rather than just tolerating it. So here's to the wives of BOTL.

May they allow us to fill up the humidor ever full.

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Amen! I think most of middle-agers would rather spend the evening at our homes enjoying a great, relaxing smoke than anything else. It's always nice to have a buddy or two over to help enjoy the time with, also.

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I've been lucky enough to have a lady who enjoys smoking cigars with me. She supports me in purchases, never discourages. She has helped with major purchases, even with the humidor that I had custom made by Ed of Waxing Moon Humidors. We share our cigars, and she knows the value of my HTFs so she never would smoke one without permission or without me for that matter, and the same goes for me to her sticks. There isn't an HTF or CC that I've smoked without her taking some in as well. Kinda nice now that I think of it :)

Cheers SOTLs!

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My wife loves the smell of a cigar, she says it "smells like men".

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I too am blessed with a wife who not only doesn't mind me enjoying cigars, she usually gets me better cigars than I get myself!

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Very lucky that mama enjoys the aroma of a good cigar and has no problem with my smoking in the house. I do, however, smoke in my "room" that has a fan at the window to expel the smoke, and I use candles in the room as well. So, unless there is a gale blowing that turns the fan blades so that the smoke is pushed further in the house, one can barely tell there is a stogie smoker therein.

Nonetheless and even so, mama approves!

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my wife bought me a box of monte pe and a box of oliva v maduro 2012 as present,

nuff said!

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I kept it from my wife for a long time. As I eased her into the idea and educated her on cigars she is very supportive. Often on Friday after work she will ask if we can go to the local shop so I can get something.She likes the smells and will ask if I need any cigars.

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My wife isn't a huge fan of me smoking cigars, but on the other hand, she doesn't discourage me from enjoying them.

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Can your wives get in touch with my Gal and have a talk with her ? J/K
Love her dearly but this is one area she does not agree.

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She likes the smell of some and dislikes the smell of others. She doeant enjoy cigars herself but she doeant mind me smoking them. when we build a house i get a smoking lounge. qnd she encouraged me to get a larger aristocrat than i originally wanted.
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My wife HATES it with a passion...thinks I will die of lung cancer. I explained to her you don't inhale and then it's "you will die of mouth cancer then"

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Tell her it beats being nagged to death. :D

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My wife tolerates it. She isn't a fan of my smoking cigars, and hates the taste of it in my mouth when we kiss. However, she also realizes they are a stress management tool, and therefore tolerates, and sometimes will say, "do you need to go off and have a cigar and a beer?"

To our wives!!!

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My girlfriend of 4 years doesn't mind. In fact, her father got me into smoking them. She will smoke with me, only things with a sweetened cap though.. Thats okay, leaves the real yummy stuff to me.

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Exactly how my wife is.

Same exactly thing with me. She doesn't hate it though.. other than that.. same convo at my house.

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My wife doesnt mind that i smoke at all as long as its not in the car or house. Both of which i can deal with as i wouldnt smoke in the house anyway. She even approved me buying my cabinet humidor knowing full well i would be on a never ending quest to fill it. Hell when she visits family in Richmond and im not there with her she stops by my old hang out at Winstons Humidor says hi to everyone and buys me some smokes. Cant beat that.

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:lr:lr:cl

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I smoked an occasional cigar; like 1-2 a year occasional. Then my wife and I were stationed in Europe and had access to CCs. She'd be out and around and pick up a couple for me to try. That got me going down my current path. Now on the rare occasion she complains about one of my purchases I tell her it's her fault I have this hobby. :) When she has to travel on business if she sees a B&M and has some time she'll stop in, tell the guy some of the cigars I like and ask for one similar so she can bring me back something new to try.

<raises glass> Here's to you, sweetie!

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My girlfriend (soon to be fiance) tolerates it also. While she isn't a fan, she absolutely hated when I chewed so when I started smoking cigars more frequently she wasn't thrilled, but it helped me kick my chewing habit. Funny this is she secretly likes the aroma. Now that Winter is here I just go out to the lake and smoke a couple in the ice house to get my fix.

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Bravo...

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I am fortunate to have a wife that likes to smoke with me also. Although she has never told me to not buy something, now that I have four coolidors and two desk tops full, she asks if I "Need" them. I think that she knows that she will reap the benefits of smoking with me. One of the best gifts I ever got was her admission that a fight we had was her fault and the apology came with about $25 worth of smokes. That was a double win for me!

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My wife doesn't smoke with me, but she will try a puff of mine every now and then. We've been together 8 years, and she's been fully supportive of my cigar passion since the beginning. If she's out shopping, and passes by my local B&M(Emersons, Hampton, Va), she'll stop in and pick up a VSG or a Padron '64 for me(the two she can remember I like). I'm thankful to have her, and everyday is better than the last. :D

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I hope my wife adopts the same feelings some day!

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I've got the gf to enjoy the CAO flavors:

http://www.cigarasylum.com/vb/showthread.php?t=48567

Then a sneaky ninja got a hold of my address through another member here, and decided she needed a bigger push:

http://www.cigarasylum.com/vb/showthread.php?t=48636

Now she's got her own 100ct humi. At least she doesn't like non-flavored cigars. I don't have to share my CC's with her. :D

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My wife likes the smell of cigars, Just not in the house. I'm fine with that. My daughter lives near Statesville and when she is coming home my wife will ask if I need her to stop at JR's and get me anything. I love that woman!

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My wife not only hates the smell and has never found one that had a smell she liked, she is also very allergic to cigarette and cigar smoke. I thought the whole allergy thing was a joke until one night we were in a casino when we got back to the room I saw a ton of raised whelps on her chest and back. When I inquired she said, "I told you I'm allergic to the smoke. That's what happens".

Now with all that said, she is very supportive. We have ground rules. No smoking in the hosue, no smoking on days we are going out in the evening, I don't expect a kiss after we have been smoking, and I shower before going to bed. I abide by these rules she totally supports the hobby often buying me smokes, encouraging me going to the local shop and even suggests on nice days that I should smoke a cigar on the porch cause "its nice out" just incase I haven't already thought of it.

I'm one of the lucky ones. My wife will probably never smoke or enjoy the hobby with me but she is super supportive what more can I ask for!

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Wow, now that's a supportive wife!

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My wife is not a fan of cigars, or smoking in general, and I don't blame her. That said, she has never tried to tell me what to do. She knows I enjoy it, and she allows me my guilty pleasures.

I have a 3rd bedroom that I have set up as my man room. 2 leather rocker recliners, my TV, laptop, PS3, etc... this room has the exhaust vent for our whole-house fan. I smoke in this room and you can't even tell thanks to the fan and the smoker cloaker.

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My wife occasionally smokes with me. She enjoys certain marcas.

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My wife smoked cigarettes for years and we'd sit on the deck at night and smoke together, until the bugs would run her back inside. :r
She quit almost a year ago and I couldn't be more proud of her. She always did and still does comment on ones she thinks smell good. She has a nose for the good ones.

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I hid my cigar hobby from my girlfriend for awhile, only smoking when I was not around her. One day she saw my coolidors and asked why I had all these coolers in my basement and then I had to tell her. I didn't want her to think I was hiding bodies or something.

So when we moved to Dublin last June and I discovered JJ Fox I would grab a cigar almost every day and that's when she found out. After initially saying that it was a gross habit she has come to understand that there is a large difference between cigarettes and cigars and she has become a lot more understanding. When we were in Cuba in December she even started to sit out with me while I was smoking. She's come to understand that it's a hobby that I am passionate about and that it brings me happiness.

I'm driving her and my mother around Niagara on the Lake all afternoon for wine tastings, so she got me a groupon deal at the B&M there so I could grab a couple of sticks to smoke while they are doing their tastings.

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:r:r:r

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My right hand has been very supportive of my cigars. :)

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My wife knew i would smoke a cigar every now and then, i even bought a small humi (50 ct never had more than 5 sticks in it) but 3 years ago when moving to our new house a lot of stuff got throw away with that stuff went my humi. I didnt miss it, but after 3 years of not smoking (3 months ago) my wife decides to surprise me with a 10 pk sampler, i told told her you know what this means right and she replied "yeah yeah, you can buy a humi for them". I bought a 150-200 ct cabinet, and this past Sunday she smoked her very first stick with me (Tabak Dulce)!!

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My Wife Can't Stand Cigars Or Cigar Smoke. She Doesn't Nag Me Anymore, Though, About How Much Money I Spend On Them & How It's Bad For My Health. I've Reduced My Smoking To 2-5/ Week & She Accepts That. I Still Love Her To Death!:):tu

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My wife's not fond of me smoking cigars, and I definitely am not allowed to do it in the house, but I do have hope of slowly bringing her around. Our last trip out of town we went to a B&M with a little better selection than I have at home & she helped me pick out some new sticks. I even have a little Acid Blondie put back I'm hoping to convince her to try. We'll see...

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My wife's actually pretty cool about me smoking cigars; I think she'd have a harder time with me smoking cigarettes (as would I -- I can't really take the smell of cigarettes). Her dad was -- still is -- an avid cigar smoker, and she said that my smoking them reminds her of her dad having one now and then.

Last night she mentioned that "...we'll have to get a couple of fans and some kind of set up out in the garage for you for when the bad weather comes this winter." Completely unprompted on my part. I'm lucky. :D

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Definitely a keeper! :)

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My wife's views have changed a lot. When I first started she didn't even know. When she found out she was "ok" with it. Now she brings me home little bags of cigars and we make a bi-weekly trip to a cigar store so she can help me pick out something. She just realized I guess how much I enjoy this. Very lucky guy.

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My wife (who is also a doc) likes anything I smoke. Sat in the hot tub last night counting stars, smoking cigars, and enjoying a nice cognac. If that shortens my life it will be we'll earned. Her choice is macanudo portifino

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My new girlfriend (of one month) doesn't mind at all. She even tries a few and commented this evening how she enjoyed the smell of a Padron I was smoking. She even made me an awesome gift.

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Thoughtful gift.
I sure hope she slid the stick inside the cello and didn't jam it up into the cigar.

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That's the best bouquet ever. :tu

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The Mrs. surprised me with an early birthday present -- stopped to buy some cigars this past Saturday, walked out of the B&M with a new humidor, punch cutter, hygrometer and...cigars. :)

She's been very accepting of my hobby, much more than I anticipated.

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I've been puffing for 35 years, now - though I blushingly admit to having started with El Cheapo's (Swishers) until a customer converted me to the good sticks.

At first, the Mrs. objected - couldn't deal with the 'stench' from them, so I had to take them outdoors. Bit of a problem, as I live in PA, where it DOES get a mite cold in winter. Fortunately, that banishment ended when her employer's office complex went smoke-free and SHE had to step out for a cigarette.
Though I was now allowed a cigar (once weekly) indoors, during inclement months, she never tried one - no matter how many times I offered.

Then, in 1998, we "won" this free Florida/Bahamas vacation trip. Had to look at time-shares, and wound up buying one in Kissimmee that backs onto Disney property. But, then we went to Freeport. Checked into our hotel and wandered next door to a big collection of shops, amongst which I found a cigar shop. Having never had a Cuban cigar, I grabbed a small handful to last the 3 days we were to be there. I guess the 'novelty' of smoking a Cuban got to the Mrs., as she cadged a few puffs off of my after-dinner RyJ that night, and (catch me, I'm fainting!) commented that the taste and the aroma weren't bad, at all!

Next morning, though, we discovered that Hurricane Georges (which they had expected to cruise into the Gulf) had taken a northerly turn and was barreling down on the Bahamas. Needless to say, the cruise ships were full to capacity that afternoon, heading back to Ft. Lauderdale - and me with 4 Cubans left to deal with. We managed to find a table on the fantail (for those of you who don't know, it's as far 'downwind' as one can get, on a ship, which is where they typically put the "smoking" tables) and sat down, each of us lighting an RyJ corona. (I sold the other two, at slight profit, to another couple, at the next table over.) The Mrs. puffed hers until it was only about a 1.5 inch stub, and then tossed it overboard. And then, as she was looking a little pensive, I asked her what she was thinking. She told me that she was looking back over all those times I'd invited her to smoke with me, and she'd turned me down.

That apparently broke the ice, for her. I tend to smoke 3 or 4 a week, and she's not quite at that point, yet. But on Friday or Saturday night she'll join me for one. I'll make lattes, and we sit and unwind and chat about our weeks. In the summers, that usually takes place in the hot-tub end of our pool. And, on our annual trip to Florida, we always stop at JR's and browse the humidor. Last time, we each walked out of there with a couple boxes apiece of our favorite smokes.

This past April, for my 60th birthday, she surprised me with a 3500-stick capacity tower humidor from an online discounter (Cheap Humidors) to replace a home-built unit that was beginning to fail. We also went out to dinner at Leaf Cigar Bar & Restaurant in Exton, PA. It was a 2-hour drive, but the meal and atmosphere was worth it. We invited my guitar teacher (a fellow aficionado) and his wife to go along. And it was MY wife who persuaded HIS wife to try HER first cigar. (A mocha "Flavours" from CAO.
And, yes, she loved it.)

Just last weekend, we had that couple over for swimming and a cook-out, and then broke out the cigars as twilight descended. Mid-way through the chatting in the hot-tub, the ladies started asking when we were going to take another trip to Leaf.

I'll sort of apologize for such a lengthy post, but a wife like mine is worth bragging on, at least in my opinion!

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Awesome, jevex. And welcome to the Asylum.

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I think my wife is slowly starting to come around to my hobby. She no longer rolls her eyes and complains at me when I bring up cigars, and the other day she even told me that a colleague of hers mentioned that there's a tobacco shop with a small humidor near where I work. (I already knew about it, but I didn't tell her that. 10 years of marriage has taught me some sense, lol.)

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My wife is very supportive even though she really doesn't like the smell. I smoke outside and usually shower afterwards. Every once in a while I'll jokingly offer her a smoke and she replies "you really want to see me turn green, don't you!"

She has no idea how intense my affair with Cigarbid has become. :)

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This is about where I stand as well. My wife knows and appreciates that I go out with the guys and have a few cigars on Monday nights. She does not like how I smell, but also knows that it is how I manage the stress of my job, in order to provide for our family, so she doesn't say much.