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colinb913 06-22-2010 06:05 PM
Re: Girlfriends Dad..
 
I doubt it. He only smokes cigars once in a blue moon.
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floydpink 06-22-2010 06:12 PM
Re: Girlfriends Dad..
 
Colin,

I reread your original post and am confused.
You said you don't know what you did to offend him, but say you "apologized to him many times". For what???

Without knowing all the details and being an overly cautious father myself, I have a sneaking suspicion you have rubbed him the wrong way and I might even go on a limb and say he might think you are a condescending, self important young buck that he would prefer his daughter not get too serious with.

Just a hunch....

If it were me I'd man up a little bit and perhaps sit down with him once he cools off. In the meantime, I'd stay clear.

colinb913 06-22-2010 06:18 PM
Re: Girlfriends Dad..
 
It was obvious I did something, and she told me he said I disrespected him. Therefore I apologized. What has me confused is I dont know what I did to disrespect him
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Pistol 06-22-2010 07:46 PM
Re: Girlfriends Dad..
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by replicant_argent (Post 895649)
There might be something to that. And to answer your question, yes I just perused that old thread.

What kind of guy is he? Does he wear jewelry or a watch? Quite frankly, unless I would know a seriously good reason a younger (I assume you are under 20 or so) guy would be wearing a Rolex, I would probably wonder what kind of values that kid has. Even if it was possibly fake. ;) I understand craftsmanship, and value, and perceived value as well as what traits seem to mold that appreciation, in whatever stance it takes.


Yeah, I am sure there are many guys here that had 2-3-4K watches here as young men , and you can turn the flamethrower on me if you want, but quite frankly, that's the way I think, and a few decades of the hair on the back of my neck telling me something has some value to me.



Of course, there might be something else about the cut of your jib he doesn't dig. Get him alone for a few minutes and ask him straight up.

As the father of a 18 year old daughter, I 'might' actually give an answer to a fellow that was dating her. Then again, that info might stay mine, but I can assure you, he probably has a reason, whether it is valid to you or not, and you may want to have some kind of resolution.
I'd be a bit careful on the watch thing. I know several guys that were given nice watches as a high school graduation present, as a kind of "coming of age" thing. I believe that a nice watch that lasts a life time is a much more appropriate gift than a car (which may kids get). I'd be more concerned with a kid that age that wore ratty clothes or had a bad attitude. To me, that says more about a guy's character than a nice time piece. JMHO, of course.

Brutus2600 06-23-2010 12:14 AM
Re: Girlfriends Dad..
 
Yeah, his first post states that he was on good terms with the dad before the night in question, and since he's been friends with the girl for a long time, I'm assuming the dad has known him for awhile and if that's the case opinions have already been formed about whatever Colin's attitude is or what kind of timepiece he wears. These seem to be moot points to me, it's some specific interaction that happened on that night that offended the dad.

kaisersozei 06-23-2010 07:02 AM
Re: Girlfriends Dad..
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Brutus2600 (Post 896091)
These seem to be moot points to me, it's some specific interaction that happened on that night that offended the dad.
Bump for proper spelling & grammatical usage of moot. :D

Mindflux 06-23-2010 07:08 AM
Re: Girlfriends Dad..
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by colinb913 (Post 895722)
It was obvious I did something, and she told me he said I disrespected him. Therefore I apologized. What has me confused is I dont know what I did to disrespect him
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Just let it go?
Posted from a firefox whilst on a 24" iMac

neoflex 06-23-2010 07:11 AM
Re: Girlfriends Dad..
 
He probably saw you walk in the kitchen and slap both his wife and his daughters asses followed by "Thanks for dinner ladies.":r:D;s

colinb913 06-23-2010 08:07 AM
Re: Girlfriends Dad..
 
That must have been it!! I was just trying to be nice!! ;) ;)
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OLS 06-24-2010 02:57 PM
Re: Girlfriends Dad..
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by kaisersozei (Post 896221)
Bump for proper spelling & grammatical usage of moot. :D
Dang straight. Man I go out of my skull on online forums, what with all the "refined pallets"
and "Mute Points" and such. :r

Normally I wouldn't add more, or even THAT, but I read another reply and had to say something.
It said more or less to stay out of sight and not let him know or see what you guys do. Bullhockey.
HE KNOWS what you are doing. He is like Santa Claus. YOUR job is to ensure that he knows
all of that and is OK with it. Or resigned to it quietly. And like I said, you have to, from time to
time, show him that you are more interested in listening to him than her, or spending time with him
rather than her. Give you a good example. Say you are talking and all of a sudden, both of them
start blabbering about something at the same time. DO NOT LET YOUR EYES OFF OF HIS THE ENTIRE
TIME. HE is the most important speaker, you can always hear her speak later.
When they both ask you something in rapid succession, answer him first.
You can extrapolate that into all sorts of neat tricks to get back where you
need to be. It sounds sexist. It is not. It is survival. He is lord and master over her, and
what she says is trivially unimportant compared to what issues forth from HIS mouth. Or at
least, that's the way you need to play it while he is in the area. And like I said, DO SOMETHING
with him that shows him you are not just a video game playing, texting, facebooking F*$K
like every other kid he sees.

Hope that helps.

Brutus2600 06-24-2010 03:23 PM
Re: Girlfriends Dad..
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by OLS (Post 897859)
Dang straight. Man I go out of my skull on online forums, what with all the "refined pallets"
and "Mute Points" and such. :r
Hey, I've seen some pretty refined pallets here at my work. The expensive medical equipment has to be shipped on something fancy, just can't use any old rotten pallet :r

icehog3 06-24-2010 03:28 PM
Re: Girlfriends Dad..
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by OLS (Post 897859)
Dang straight. Man I go out of my skull on online forums, what with all the "refined pallets"
and "Mute Points" and such. :r
I agree for "all intensive purposes".

:r

Wolfgang 06-24-2010 03:29 PM
Re: Girlfriends Dad..
 
I blame Global warming!

IDEA: Did you rip one at dinner?

Brutus2600 06-24-2010 03:39 PM
Re: Girlfriends Dad..
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by icehog3 (Post 897893)
I agree for "all intensive purposes".

:r
You're post made me :r Their aren't many posts that make me lol. The people over in the jokes section? There posts make me laugh. Your trying to be funny though, and they're in lies the humor.


(Ugh. That made my brain hurt coming up with something to write to mistyping all those :<)

icehog3 06-24-2010 03:42 PM
Re: Girlfriends Dad..
 
I'll be here all za veek, Brian....try the veal. :D

Brutus2600 06-24-2010 03:43 PM
Re: Girlfriends Dad..
 
No but seriously, I did laugh at your post :D

Starscream 06-24-2010 04:37 PM
Re: Girlfriends Dad..
 
One point that I haven't seen mentioned in this thread is that he may just be playing mind games with you to see how you react. Don't be uber-apoligetic, just be nice to him and mention that whatever the fact is that he is annoyed about that you are sorry and will hope not to do again, but without his input you cannot be sure of what do do.

Quote:
Originally Posted by GKitty (Post 895360)
I'd just like to chime in and say, y'all are a great bunch of dads. :)

When boys started calling the house for me, my dad made it a point to start answering the phone every time it rang. His favorite test was to ask them, "What does she look like?" If they couldn't get past brunette and glasses, they got to leave a message. The guy who mentioned the dimples got major brownie points.

My only comment to the original subject, is to watch how you talk about this situation with the lady in question. She may get on a rant about how her dad is being immature or juvenile when she gets frustrated with the situation. This is not a invitation for you to join in. Save that for your friends... or your internet forums. Dads are people too, so they're not always going to be perfect. However, that conversation could easily turn into her taking his side over yours because she feels like you've attacked him. Tread carefully.

Carry on, gents!
Crystal's point is dead on. Take it for what you will, but this is very good info.
Quote:
Originally Posted by colinb913 (Post 895379)
I personally have no problems with her parents, so I dont plan on smack talking anyone. And I def. wont be ranting with her anytime soon.
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That's a good attitude to take if you truly love her.


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